for being totally freaked out husband has vomiting and diarrhea

[monkeynuts123]

Ok husband has vomiting and diarrhea and I am freaking out because I think it will be a matter of hours until it's my turn and then probably the kids. We have no support we can call on. I don't even know what to do tonight because he's holed up in the bedroom and I normally co-sleep there with baby once baby wakes around midnight and there's no way I'm getting in next to sick dh. What the hell will I do if both kids get it and I get it and he's incapacitated too. Does anyone think there's the smallest glimmer of hope that I might not get it? He's using one loo in the house and I've not been near it and nor have kids, haven't kissed for 3 days (separate topic!). I'm a bit health anxious anyway and this is sending me over the edge.

[monkeynuts123]

Oh I used to have a major fear, like I would have to leave the house! I can cope with it now but not very well, I get very upset and scared but can look after other people when sick and myself. I'm more terrified about not being able to look after kids properly if I get it. He could be pregnant! He's grumpy enough.

[PureQuintessence]

If it is a virus, by the time you get it, he will have recovered enough to handle the kids.... But he will need to keep up his hand hygiene and separate towel for himself. Good luck.

[Mintyy]

monkeynuts123, I am not unsympathetic (I promise) but you must let go of this feeling sorry for yourself because you have no one you can call on to help! You shouldn't ask anyone to risk getting a d & v bug from your family ... its really not fair. So even if you were surrounded by willing helpers I really don't think its right to ask for help unless absolutely desperate.

The way it usually goes (if any of the rest of you do get it) is one after the other. Dh will be feeling better by tomorrow anyway, so he can help you if anything happens.

Touch wood, we have never had a bug in this house where all of us have got it at the same time.

[monkeynuts123]

I must be a bit dim because I just assumed other people would ask family to help but you're right, who would help? And anyway you couldn't ask could you. Sometimes it is scary being all responsible for everyone. I felt crap yesterday, had a bit of a dodgy tum and felt I might be ill but I just battled on and nothing came of it, I suppose there's the outside chance that was it.

[MousyMouse]

on the plus side, 3yo should be able to aim at the bowl which makes it a sooooo much easier.
agree with the others, sleep somewhere else tonight and wash your (and dc's hands) often. bleach light switches, phone, sink toilet.
luckily stomach bugs are usually over very quickly.

[idiot55]

fully understand.

bleach bleach bleach.

hand wash as much as possible and stay sawy fro 48 hours after last episode

sure you be ok

[loubielou31]

I have a packet of Napisan for laundering towells and bedding etc in case of illness. I hope I won't need it.

[Divinyl]

• Something like Milton tablets can go in the wash and also in washing up water, for sterilising purposes.
  
• Wipe over: light switches, keyboards, remote controls, stairgate handles etc
  
• Get some rehydration salt sachets in, and also something clear and fizzy (I could stomach Purdeys when I went down with this, but whatever).
  

But yes, it could certainly be food poisoning and not necc a virus.

[BarredfromhavingStella]

Try not to worry about it, DD had D&V but myself & DS got away with it , MIL was not so lucky. DH was away lucky bastard

[midastouch]

YANBU i spent hours during and after DP had this with bottles of dettol and my steam cleaner. Still caught it though was the worst experience of my life so i do hope you dont get it! Only lasted about 8 hours though, and then all i could eat was rice then a bit of toast for a week.

[Mintyy]

midastouch
If the worst experience of your life was an 8 hour tummy bug then you should consider yourself a very lucky person indeed!

[PowerPants]

You will not necessarily get it - last time the children had it , we did not, despite doing all the soothing and cleaning and washing. We didn't have anyone to help, either, so i share your pain - however tis true that no one can really help in this situation!

[EndoplasmicReticulum]

I find that if children have it first, adults are pretty much guaranteed to get it because they are mopping up the vom. However if an adult gets it we can successfully quarantine ourselves (we are lucky that we have two toilets!). Infected person only uses one toilet, everybody washes their hands a lot and dettol everything.

Usually there is a time lag of about 24-48 hours between being infected and getting sick, so as pp has said, if you do come down with it then your husband should be sufficiently recovered to look after the children.

Having said that, I remember one occasion where husband and I both got struck down at exactly the same time, we were putting toddler son to bed in shifts between rushing off to be sick!

My parents do help if we get it, mainly by looking after quarantined children as they don't go back to school for 48 hours. We've passed bugs onto my dad before, but my mum never gets them, I think she must be immune. Or she just refuses to let them get her, she's a very stubborn woman.

[Shagmundfreud]

Look - its a bit of d&v, not cholera. None of you are going to die, even if you do contract it.

[silverstaresatnight]

I sympathise but I work on the wards with regular outbreaks of no reovirus etc, I have never had it, well not properly anyway
Calm down and you will cope fine if you have to .

[silverstaresatnight]

Norovirus

[diddl]

I've been with my husband 20yrs & never caught anything from him!

[silverstaresatnight]

I usually notice a trend.. Pts are ill, I spend extra time with them and lo and behold next day is big outbreak and we have to wear gloves etc but of course wasn't wearing them the day before. Haven't caught it even after examining up to twenty people with the bug!

[Fanjango]

You may not get it. I have 4 kids and a partner that catches everything going. I havn't had d+v for 6 years now, the kids get it at least twice a year. Guess I have built up an immunity, maybe you have too. It's not that bad, though, most people can struggle through, it's only some that suffer that badly.

[AudrinaAdare]

Oh Christ, I do feel for you and yy to doing everything you can to prevent it but as the adult who isn't sick you are putting yourself at risk cleaning and bleaching.

DD had noro at Christmas but didn't pass it to anyone else because she took basic hygiene precautions and she is only twelve years old. It isn't surprising that people who clean up after grown men get ill themselves, surely

[pigsDOfly]

Oh dear. I can fully sympathize. When my children were young I had a major fear of V & D. As soon as one of the children started showing symptoms I would start shaking and come out in a cold sweat.

One of my children caught shigella, which is a form of dysentery and is, or was at the time, a notifiable disease. It was brought to the school by one of the dinner ladies returning from a holiday. Most of the school went down with it and a few families were hospitalized.

When my daughter got it, I completely isolated her and, as others have said, washed, washed and washed everything. Every time she went to the loo I swabbed the whole thing down. I was terrified of any of the rest of us getting it.

None of us got it, and of course she recovered.

I took lots of deep breaths and thought about what was the worse that could happen.

Vomit can be cleaned up. Bedding can be washed. And if the mattress is ruined, it can be replaced. It's not the end of the world

It's unpleasant, but you will get through it. Trust me.

As someone else said. If you get it, your OH will be well enough to cope with the children.

I had to cope with it one my own as my now exH was worse than useless and left me cope with all that sort of thing on my own.

Just take it calmly. You can cope.

Good luck. Hope you don't get it.

[Airwalk79]

Erm, its d and v? No one died. Is this a real post?
Yes it's unpleasant and shitty, but its really not the end of the world!
How would you deal with it if one of you got something really bad? You just get on with it don't you, then life goes on. 😷

[pigsDOfly]

Yes Airwalk it is only V & D for many people, but if you're phobic about it there's nothing 'only' about it.

Like any phobia or anxiety unless you have that particular anxiety it's difficult for you to understand how hard it is to deal with.

[monkeynuts123]

So far so good! babies and I don't have it....hopefully....yet. Can anyone offer words of reason. DH started being ill 4am Saturday morning and is better now, as we're all in the clear now at 10.00 monday morning, do you think there's a chance we've escaped it? I'm sorry if this is dull to people I'm just worried.