AIB xenophobic or is she BU?

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My friend is not from the UK, but from anther English speaking country. Her DH is British. They have a child who was born here. She's always going on about how great her country is, how she can't wait to move back there, how rubbish the UK is, how she could never bear to have another child here because the NHS is so bad etc etc.

Her DH is looking for jobs in her country. Although she keeps moaning about how the jobs he's applying for are in the wrong part of her country. He works in a very limited field so I think anything he can find would be good, if they are so desperate to go back.

They are currently back in her country visiting friends and family. Today she emailed me and a few of our other friends a video of the baby food aisle of a supermarket saying 'There's so much more choice here!'.

AIBU to tell her stop going on and on about how great her country is? She chose to move here. And now there are opportunities to go home, why is she moaning about them?

I know this post sounds a bit xenophobic, but I don't mean to be. I just find the constant comparisons of the UK and her home very negative and frankly rude.

"Encourage her to get her UK citizenship" - but why? We have enough homegrown whingebags.

It's very self-centred behaviour. She's entitled to her opinion but to go on and on about it suggests she doesn't care how it comes across. yanbu to find it irritating.

I'm American living in the UK, and I try to keep certain things to myself, unless asked. A lot of people express surprise that I want to live here, and they ask if I miss home.

I tell them that I miss certain things like hot summer nights, 24 pancake houses, and big houses. But, I always say that I love the NHS, the countryside and the history.

I have gone through periods of homesickness. Americans are raised to be patriotic. I still believe in my bones that it's the greatest nation on Earth, even though I know that that is a subjective thing and not based on logic.

Sorry but I couldn't be friends with someone who sent me a video of a baby-food aisle and expected me to comment in an interested way upon it.

Not xenophobic at all. I've lived with people like that. This one australian couple were so bad for it that they pissed off not only the three Brits (including myself) that they lived with, but the 9 other Australians too, who eventually compiled a massive list of things that the UK has that Australian doesn't and threw it in their face. Shut them up for a few hours

When she goes home it will be 'oh, in england we have this' 'in London we did that' 'oh, don't we have this over here?' Wait until she realises how bloody far she has to travel to go abroad (no Eurostar! No Chunnel! No weekend breaks to Madrid!). She'll be asking you to crate over baked beans, proper tea and cadbury's chocolate.

I know an american lady married to a german man, living in Germany, and she will not go back to US when he retires < they have no children and she does not work> due to US superior weather, as the german Health System is brilliant < it is> and US is awful. Her words.

Also know a german couple who lived in US - El Paso- for 3 years,who loved it there and didn't want to go back to Germany. All their german visitors loved it there and wanted to live there too.

Am at videoing the baby food aisle. Was it amzingly awesome in a way that ours arent?

"Three years here, and she has toned down a lot. Quieter, more thoughtful, doesnt show off that much. Says so much for the UK Influence."

SilentSplendidSun sorry but you sound as bad as OP's friend! Everyone is soooo much nicer where you're from than they are in other countries, I'm sure .

Why does having an eye watering amount of choice sound like a good thing? We have so many tv channels and 99% are bollocks, repeats or porn!

Bet they don't sell faggots, haggis or Barrs Irn Bru!

Oh my god Irn Bru. Couldn't live somewhere that didn't sell that.

I actually found out yesterday that until recently Kinder Eggs were illegal in America. The greatest nation on earth my arse!

When my sister emigrated she needed care parcels of Tunnocks tea cakes / caramel bars, McCowan toffee, Jazzy drops, rainbow drops, topic bars, bournville dark chocolate...

I assume Kinder in case someone eats the toy (duh). So they don't put toys in cereal either? Land of the free, my arse!

Tbf, if it she is in fact American I would have to agree that everything is bigger!

They do put toys in cereal.

The FDA states that you can't have something inedible encased in something edible.

There is a new Kinder sort of egg that just came out. They got around the rule by having a think strip of plastic show to the outside of the chocolate.

The US is not horrible. But it is not great either.

Just the like the UK.

Our peanut butter is pants compared to Jiff and Skippy. Or even Peter Pan.

And anyway are we talking about living in downtown Detroit or Beverley Hills?

Or some ghastly, sprawling 'burb outside Atlanta?

Yep its because of the toy inside. They have their own version coming out for easter which sort of gets around it by not having chocolate all the way round. Madness!

My American born but UK educated friend asks for Hula Hoops, Wotsits and Dairy Milk to be sent over. I ask for Mountain Dew. It's a fair swap

American supermarkets really are awesome. Especially in California, where all the produce is grown. The selection of ice creams or breakfast cereals is mind-boggling, and you can buy everything in multiple sizes. If you want a gallon jar of Mayonnaise, you can find them on the bottom shelf.

I was talking to a client the other day who was asking the typical "what do you miss about America" questions and I said "Well, everything is big and easy there" and he knew what I meant. He has a disabled son in a wheelchair and he remarked upon the size of the sidewalks and parking spaces, etc.

Obviously, America isn't perfect and I love living here. But, like someone said above, you can't help but notice the things that seem inferior to what you grew up with.

It's rude to talk about it or go on and on about it, and I think there are rude people of every nationality doing it wherever they live. I have definitely heard Brits moan about living in the States! But, polite people choose their audiences carefully.

Katy, where are you from in the US?

That's a really good point, grovel. I've lived all over the US, except for the deep south, although I've visited.

The differences are immense.

grovel I was born and raised in Cincinnati, Ohio. I spent my 20's living in San Francisco and my early 30's in Philadelphia. Lived here and there in between.

Sounds like the common phenomenon of British immigrants in Australia whinging about how hot it is here compared to the UK. Well what did you fucking expect?