To send dc (8) to bed at 8 on 1 w/end night to have time to myself?

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DP thinks IABU.

DC (age 8) goes to bed at 8 midweek and is allowed to go to bed at 9:30 on a Friday. I'd like him to go to bed at 8 on a Saturday to give DP and I time to watch a film/chat etc. We have a breastfed newborn so I can't just stay up later as I'm exhausted by about 10:30 and both DC are up by 7:30 each morning (normally 6) at the very latest so no chance of a lie in to compensate for the late night.

I'd like to have a couple of hours with DP to watch a film or something at least once a week yet DP seems to think it's harmless having DC up at this time but frankly I'd rather not have this time which could be our 'grown-up' time watching 'You've Been Framed' with both DC in the room! It wasn't so bad before we had the baby as we just stayed up later ourselves and while I don't want DC1 to feel pushed out by a new baby, I really crave some adult time too.

AIBU?

YANBU
My DSS who is 10 goes to bed at 8 when he stays here. He is a right grump else and I don't careif its the weekend.

Other kids in bed at 7,
I love my evenings with DH.

8.00 isn't particularly early and DD rarely was allowed up until 9.30 aged 8.
She is 10 and as just gone to bed.

Your DP is being a twat.

My nearly 8 year old goes to bed between 7 and 8 every night!

Think I will show DP this thread!

Have am 8 yr old here. 8pm weekday; 8.30-9pm weekend

YANBU Your DC is 8. It won't do DC any harm going to bed at 8pm. Your DP is NBU either, what harm having DC sat on couch quietly watching YBF and then DP puts DC to bed? You can have adult time on a sunday night? Or DC friday bed 9.00pm and saturday 8.30pm? When you are both right it is time to compromise.

i'm confused - can't you have adult time every other night when he goes to bed at 8pm?

Your DP is being unreasonable - my eldest 2 go at 8pm - they are 8 and 10 - they can read etc until 9pm in their rooms

last night they stayed up until 9:30 watching RND - they where tired and crabby this morning

your alone time is your recharging time - massively important, especially with a new born x

8pm is quite late enough for an 8 year old at any time of the week!

My nearly 13 year old goes to bed at 9pm every night!! His choice - I don't enforce it! (though to be fair he does read till 10pm)

You should see the state of some children on a Monday morning at school who have been allowed to stay up way later than normal at the weekend.It takes until about Wednesday for some of them to look anything resembling alert.

If it is a special occasion, obviously that is different, but there is no need for more than a half hour difference to bed-time at the week-end in my opinion.

my dd was in bed every night by that time when she was 8. She really needed the sleep though. Even now at 12 she needs a lot of sleep.

musickeepsmesane: he is a teacher so midweek he helps out until 8 when dc1 goes to bed, then we take turns watching baby while the other one has a bath, then I have dc until about 10:30 while he does marking/ planning. At 10:30 I go to bed as I'm up in the night to breast feed. Sunday night may be a better compromise though.

jamdonut: I know all about Monday mornings! I teach 11-16 year olds and the amount of kids who use computer games/ social networking until the early hours is scary!