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to think I might be a bit psychic?!

27 replies

Josie10 · 16/03/2013 19:16

I woke up on weds morning with a 'feeling' there was something wrong with my mum or dad. Basically, all day I kept having moments when I thought there was something wrong and I ought to text them and make sure they're ok. I didn't in the end as my mum works all day weds and my dad lives abroad and thought they would let me know if anything happened!
The next day my mum said she was very poorly with temp,of over 40 on weds with an ear and throat infection and had to get antibiotics for the first time in years. My dad is fine.

Just think it's a bit strange I was having those thoughts and my mum WAS poorly. Also strange I couldn't tell if it was my mum or dad even though they've been separated for 16 years.

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 16/03/2013 19:26

YANBU

I have a strong intuition on things quite often. It spooks me!

LilQueenie · 17/03/2013 00:22

I get it lots. YANBU.

WorraLiberty · 17/03/2013 00:26

I think what tends to happen is that we get these feelings a lot and are often wrong

But we only remember when we are actually right.

Sorry I know that's probably not what you want to hear as it's not as 'glamorous' as saying you're psychic but there you are.

I'm sure if you wrote it down every single time you thought something, you'd be amazed to see how often you were wrong.

whethergirl · 17/03/2013 00:29

Exactly Worra, it's like saying that you were thinking of someone and then they called you on the phone. But how often do we think of people and they don't call you in that moment?

Bridgetbidet · 17/03/2013 00:29

My Gran has that. It really is bonkers. It doesn't happen often but sometimes she will say that she has a terrible feeling an she thinks something is going to happen, she can't say who too, but she knows something is going to happen. She really does feel very distressed and sometimes it can affect her physically. And then we will find out she is right. We get a call to say someone is sick or has died or something. It's absolutely nuts, because she is always, always right.

WorraLiberty · 17/03/2013 00:34

Yep whethergirl that's totally what I mean.

It's how memories work.

We remember the really brilliant times and we remember the really bad times...but all the mediocre times in between, we totally forget.

So it makes sense to only remember the times we were right about something we felt for no apparent reason.

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 17/03/2013 00:36

Mine come in the way of intrusive thoughts. Like I will suddenly think to myself...'Could you imagine if we had a power cut at work tomorrow and we all got sent home early, wouldn't it be great'. - The very next day it happened!

I have also woke up in the morning knowing certain staff members would be calling in sick. I would think of them and within ten mins I would receive a text from him/her saying they wouldn't be in. Weird.

noblegiraffe · 17/03/2013 05:59

I bet when you were thinking something was 'wrong', an ear infection requiring a quick trip to the GP to sort wasn't up there in your concerns.

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Josie10 · 17/03/2013 09:28

Good point giraffe! interesting to hear other people's points of view, yes probably do get lots of 'feelings'!! I still like to think it's a little bit spooky!!

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DrHolmes · 17/03/2013 10:13

I see what worra is saying and yes that is true but...Two months ago me and my partner and his family were travelling to Glasgow for a wedding. We all live together inc his grandad but he needs carers and wasn't coming to the wedding. Me and dp were travelling together and just as we were setting off I told him I had a bad feeling and didn't think we should go. DP was a bit sceptical and a bit yeah yeah DrHolmes. Anyway, seeing as you don't just not go because you have a feeling off we went. When we got to our hotel we had the tv on and there was the advert for the Stroke awareness on, it goes through "FAST" and as it was talking through each letter i said what it stood for and that if anyone had a stroke near me I knew what to do. Next day at the wedding meal we were chatting to the other guests about dp's grandad saying he was doing a lot better than he had been in previous months. DP looked at his phone and had a missed call from the carer asking for dp's dad to call the carer. DP's grandad had had a suspected stroke.
May be a coincidence but I want to feel a bit psychic!

2 weeks ago I txt my heavily pregnant friend asking how she was doing and that I had a feeling she was going to give birth that day. She said she was fine, no signs of labour, she was to be going to her sisters for dinner that night. Didn't happen because 2 hours after i txt she went into labour and had her baby a few hours later!

So whenever i get a strong feeling I say it to someone. And so far when I have I haven't been wrong.
I also have dreams about people and txt them in the morning only to find out something had happened to them the day before!

I understand I have feelings about something and that nothing comes of it but when I actually say to someone what I am feeling because the feeling is so strong it turns out to be true.

MixedBerries · 17/03/2013 10:14

Exactly what Worra said. You just don't remember all the times you were wrong. It's called confirmation bias. And the memory is notoriously unreliable as a record of actual events. But it would be nice, wouldn't it?! Chris French of the Anomalistic Psychology Research Unit at Goldsmiths College has done a lot of interesting research into this apparent phenomenon.

MixedBerries · 17/03/2013 10:15

Hope your mum's ok by the way!

NumericalMum · 17/03/2013 10:16

I think I have te pregnant woman equivalent of "gaydar". Two of my friends, neither looking pregnant, not in an alcohol drinking context either and I guess they were pregnant. Both are. Freaks me out, although I think once you have been pregnant you recognise the subtle signs more?

noblegiraffe · 17/03/2013 10:20

Predicting that a heavily pregnant friend is going to go into labour has pretty good odds, as are the chances of an elderly man who requires carers having something go wrong (not that you predicted that, just had a vague bad feeling). Guilt about leaving dad behind and worry that something would happen were responsible for that feeling.

Predicting that a friend who didn't know she was pregnant was going to have a baby would be more impressive!

DrHolmes · 17/03/2013 10:33

OP YABU and so am I.

thebody · 17/03/2013 10:38

No I agree with you op. it's happened to me with my dd.

Bad bad feeling all school trip and then terrible accident.

I had told dh I was worried about her the whole week she was away and she had been away many times before.

Spice17 · 17/03/2013 10:43

When I was younger my half sister (who I didn't live with) had a young cat. We went on holiday and the neighbour was looking after him and she kept saying 'I think (said cat) is going to die' and I kept telling her not to be silly but when we got back, he had in fact been run over and died. It was very weird.

I also swear that I dream things that happen, they can be very mundane things, like chatting to someone at work and I think 'I dreamt that'. I know lots of people get that feeling but often I remember actually talking to DH about my dream the morning after (and that's what I recall about it, not the actual dream)

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Josie10 · 17/03/2013 10:46

Oh dear thebody that's horrid, I hope your dd is ok now?

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thebody · 17/03/2013 10:50

Yes thanks josie10 she is recovered and back at school now.

All the other girls are slowly getting there too. Just wish the lovely teacher had made it but sadly he died at the scene.

fishybits · 17/03/2013 11:02

I've only had that feeling a couple of times but spookily it was spot on.

In the morning whilst on a break I suddenly got a headache so bad I had to sit down (I very rarely get headaches), it was very intense on the right hand side. That morning unbeknownst to me my Mother was involved in a car crash, she was turning right and some fool had ploughed into her. She was fine apart from a nasty headache where she'd hit her head on the right hand side against the window. My break was at 1100 and her crash happened around 1100.

The other time was aged 12 and I had a dream that Grandpa came and sat on my bed to say goodbye and to tell me that he would always be looking after me. Grandpa died the same night.

WorraLiberty · 17/03/2013 11:04

I remember you saying about the school trip, that was horrific Sad

But again, you only have to look at the amount of threads on MN where posters are worrying about their kids going off on a school trip...and saying they won't rest until they're home.

It's a natural concern and so the odds are, someone somewhere will find they were right to worry IYSWIM?

whethergirl · 17/03/2013 11:14

I get moments too, quite often I'll be thinking about something quite specific and DS will then ask me a question about it. I've also had 'predictive' dreams. However, if you imagine the trillions of thoughts that must run through your brain in a single day, coincidences are bound to happen. I do believe that we can sometimes pick up on people's energies, and I believe that we all have intuition.

However, most of the time, it's 'confirmation bias' as Mixedberries said.

FWIW, I am not naturally sceptical (have become more so with age!). I am also quite a spiritual person and believe in God. However, I spent some years as an appointment booker for a team of psychics and from my experience, I can say 99% of it was bollocks.

thebody · 17/03/2013 11:43

I know worra and accept that yes it's the times something goes wrong that you remember not the times you worried and it was fine.

cumfy · 17/03/2013 13:12

But we only remember when we are actually right.

The tooth fairy wants a word and Santa says rational bad children won't be getting any toys this Xmas.Angry

INeverSaidThat · 17/03/2013 13:19

Sorry but YABU and just a little bit bonkers. Coincidences happen all the time.