She's not well - hasn't been for a while, under the doctor etc, but stupidly independent. Because of this she wont directly ask for help, rather hint at it or wait for me to offer, but the problem is, when i do offer she declines and i therefore don't offer anymore.
Thursday she rang me - could i make a drs appointment for her for the friday - this means ringinig at 8am to play the appointment lottery - no worries, so 7.45 on friday she calls me - Don't bother with the doctors I can't be bothered 
"so you're feeling better then?" no, she can't be bothered, i consider making the appointment anyway in case she changes her mind but don't want to take up a space and could tell by her mood that she wasn't going to have any of it. Had to take DD swimming with school in morning - was walking back home with intention of taking her dog out, shes walking the dog - fine. Shes moaning like fuck about everything, im meeting DP as he needs to drop off the keys to me as he took both pairs to work with him (wassock).
She comes round during the day wtih goodies shit for DD (chocolate and sweets) but says she still feels poorly. OK, what can i do now? you made me cancel the appointment.
So today she knows im out all morning - rings me, "oh i just walked miles to get the dog biscuits but now i feel bad" so i go through the "why didn't you ring me, we would have got them for you on the way home" (we have to get our own dog food ffs, its NOT a problem) no, that way she wont be able to guilt trip me. So she says she feels bad, is laying down, would i take the dog out - yes of course i'll take the dog out but ive just got back from taking DD to pony club, im frozen and just having a cup of tea, i tell her i'll be round when i have had a cup of tea.
Was this good enough ? No, as per fucking usual because i didn't drop every thing and do it that very second she has taken the bloody dog out herself - making herself feel a darn sight worse i daresay and feeling fucking sorry for herself because i blatantly don't care enough about her etc etc.
My mum is the most generous person i know, will do ANYTHING for anyone and would give me her last penny. But this bloody guilt tripping and playing the martyr is just driving me to distraction. Now i feel like shit because i didnt take the dog out.