To ask him to pop in for 5 mins?

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My niece had a baby 2 weeks ago, I sent a present and card through the post as I knew I wouldn't be able to get down to see her as I was working ect.She has text me this morning to say she will be at my sisters house tomorrow if I want to call and see the baby. This is much easier for me as my sister only lives about a mile away.

We do have plans for tomorrow we are going for a meal at 1:30 but AIBU to ask my DP to take me and my two DDs to see the new baby for half an hour? He said he will but only to drop us off.I said I think you should come in for a few minutes to show your face, he said he doesn't want to as he can't be bothered.He has now stormed off to work as I said I thought he was very rude.

I make a lot of effort with his family, I bake for his dad and ring his mum daily to make sure everything is ok,as well as remembering his DNs birthdays ect.I now feel as though I'm BU as he has stormed out.

Feel like telling my niece the truth as to why he won't be there tomorrow but I know this would hurt her.

i agree with you, he is rude. how hard is it to pop in, say "baby's beautiful" or whatever, maybe have a wee hold, then leave again?

Id tell him you're going anyway and he can do what the hell he likes.
Do you drive? If you do there's no reason why you can't go.

No I don't drive that's the annoying thing.I'm also annoyed that we are going out for lunch with his mum and her partner beforehand.Ill be friendly and chatty with them as I always am.

Don't understand why he being like like this I mean my sister can be a bit odd but she is still my sister and seeing as its her first grandchild I really dont think he should be saying he can't be bothered.The more I think about it the more annoyed I'm getting!!!

My dh does that. Because it doesn't matter to him ....
Arses

Yeah I think your probably right,It doesn't matter to him and I don't think he is bothered what my family think of him. I know he holds his own family in much higher regard, kind of sees mine as a bunch of clampits I think. The thing is they are still my family and as both my parents have recently passed away I don't want to lose touch with them.

What a twat! It's obviously one rule for you, another for him. He obviously sees himself as more important than you. Stick a rocket up his arse.

see the thing is you state you bake for his family, check up on his mum and remember his dn birthday. But the question is did he ask you to bake for them and call etc. You do that off your own back. so why compare that to this, urbu

Stop bothering with his family. See how he likes it.

But tell him why. Tell him that since he can't be bothered with your family you will no longer be bothering with his. And list the things you do.

What a git.

If your sister only lives about a mile away could you walk/get a bus there instead while he's going out for lunch with his mum?