To want to go to my moms for the night to sleep

[brummiegirl1]

I have 2 young boys aged 2 and 8 months and i don't know when i last had a fully night sleep. I breastfeed my 8 month old but have started to give him a couple of bottles a day in preparation for when i go into hospital to have my wisdom teeth out next week(i wont be able to breastfeed him for a week due to medication they said) I told my husband that i was thinking of staying at my moms over night and he was ok with that. When i said that i would probably leave the boys with him he didn't seem as keen.

I said to him i only wanted a full night sleep as i havent had that since youngest was born and i feel grouchy and down. I helped look after my mom last September for 2 and a half months while she got over a hip replacement and i had the two boys with me then so my husband had all them nights sleep and i agreed to have them with me so he didn't have to worry about dropping them off before work.

Not sure what to do now, i have told him what to give the youngest and when if needed during the night. I only thought of going tonight as my husband does not have to get for work in the morning as he has a week holiday. AIBU?

Yanbu I have done this before.
Tell him to get over himself

Of course you're not. You should be sharing the broken nights anyway, irregardless of whether he has to get up for work or not.

He does help me at night sometimes but my main point to him is i want one night of uninterupted sleep where he has had that when i stayed at my moms and when i have been at home he has been in the other room sometimes so i have got up with baby while he slept i haven't had that but now he will take a bottle i thought it would be ok.

YANBU. Put it to him that he can have one night while you do the wakings, and the next night he can do the wakings. How could that not be fair? (As he is on holiday anyway)

But re breastfeeding and painkillers/medication, there are very few drugs you actually can't breastfeed while taking (or that there is not a viable substitute you could take instead) but a lot of dentists/doctors just don't know and can't be bothered to find out so say you have to stop. Check with the breastfeeding helpline.

Not unreasonable at all - he's their patent too and should step up! You need to recouperate and sleep.

There are some meds which you can't bf with. I was told that my bp meds were safe when DS was born. They are for lots of people but DS ended up in hospital for 3 weeks.

I didn't know that PourquoiPas, i will definately enquire about that.

YANBU
Your DCs have two parents

You will have had an operation and will need sleep

He needs to step up! On that night and the rest

My DH is a lazy git around the house but he always helped with the nights

Forgot to put the details of the helpline sorry -

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