to feel sad that friend refused to see me?

[TexasToast]

My friend lost her Grandfather over the weekend.

I had the Monday off and I had a doctors appointment, I text her and said would you like me to come over and we can maybe watch this movie that we kept saying we needed to see, to take her mind off things.

(Friend lives two minutes walk from doctors.) She refused.

Thought ok and just said here if you change your mind or need anything.

I then found out that the same evening she went to a different friends house and watched the movie.

I just feel a little I tried to be there for her and take her mind off things. I know it's selfish to feel that way and I'd never say anything to her about it. so I guess I just needed to get it out.

I can understand why you feel a bit frustrated but when you have lost a loved one then thinking about upsetting friends is last thing on someone's mind and feelings can change from hour to hour so she could easily have wanted to hide away when you text her but a few hours later needed distracting.

maybe she had already made the arrangements with other friend before your offer?

maybe she had already made the arrangements with other friend before your offer?

Sorry doctors appointment was at 11ish (and she told me that she was at home in the text, thanks for the offer but no)

And she went to other friends house in evening, not sure what time, probably 7/8.

Maybe she was feeling delicate but then later felt like company and your idea appealed? If you have dc then she probably thought it was around dinner and bed time so approached a friend that would be available that time?

Is the other friend someone who your friends often confides in?

but I meant maybe she had already arranged to go round to see the other friend later on, and did not want to upset you by saying so? maybe she had other family stuff to attend to.

dont dwelll on it, just be there when she needs you

Perhaps the other friend has experienced a similar loss recently or something?

Either way, she is grieving and probably not thinking straight anyway.

You planted a seed of an idea. At the time you texted she probably didn't feel up to it then maybe kicked herself later because she realised actually some company would be good, que second friend saying do you want to pop over and her response yes we could watch ...

I think you've made a lovely suggestion to a friend at a time of need and even though it wasn't with you the film no doubt was a momentary distraction.