Quite a long backstory which I will try and summarise:
-DB 3 yrs older than me. Degree educated but never stuck out a job longer than a couple of years. Always leaving or getting laid off.
- About 3 yrs ago moved to the Far East- lived with my parents. They have more money than sense and bought him a business which he folded.
- Married a woman from that country.
- Has been laid off again from a recent pub job out there.
- He's now talking about moving back to the UK and retraining (at my parent's expense).
... Undoubtedly we will get a call in the next couple of months from either my DB or my folks asking if he can stay at my house here in the uk (with me, my DH and DS).
WIBU to say no?
Just to also back this up to say about 5 years ago this also happened... He moved in, for 2 weeks. 6 months later he was still here. I got him a job at my office, he slept his way round the company and I often found a colleague I didn't like, having breakfast in my kitchen! He also got paralytic one night, smashed his face on the kerb and me and DH had to take him to a&e.
I feel I have very little patience and am finding his general lack of purpose and responsibility wearing. I'm also annoyed that he sponges off my folks- but know its their money to throw down the pan.
WlBU to not let him stay with or without his new wife? I know I'll be guilt tripped by my family, and be told that I'm always down on him. We have also had a lot from my folks but are in a repayment plan with interest!!
Also, tips needed on how to say no and stand my ground.
(First Aibu- please go easy on me!)