to cancel my disastrous hen do?

[shorty78]

So, the story goes, my friend and I had planned a weekend away for my hen do and it all kind of went to pot.

I have one 'friend' who is a bit on the forceful side, and as we've had countless discussions on what we wanted/didn't want to do, when it has been something she doesn't agree with (for example I don't drink, but she made a big fuss over it) she either ignores our wishes completely or goes on and on about it until we all feel we have to give in.

Over all of this, one of my friends tried to back out of going, and the massively nasty reaction to this friend had shocked me to a point that I didn't want to go. To calm things down my friend said she would come for my sake, but I knew she didn't really want to. The other 'friend' in question then went on a little bullying campaign, telling my friend she shouldn't bring any of the hen party things she had bought as she wanted everything to be from her. She argued with every little suggestion my friend had about what we could do, where we could go, and again she started having a go at us because we wouldn't be drinking.I have my reasons for not drinking, and they were personal to me, but I ended up feeling I had no choice but to explain myself just to shut her up, but even that didn't work. It ended with comments from her saying "I guess I'm the only one who'll be having any fun then" before I lost my temper, rang round my friends apologising that I wouldn't be going, it was too much hassle for what was supposed to be a fun weekend without the kids.

In all of that she has been harrassing my other friend, saying it's all her fault and other very personal and nasty comments.

I have said I will happily reimburse everyone if they decide not to make use of the booking, as it is my fault we aren't going away, and have apologised profusely!

AIBU

Doesn't sound like a disastrous hen do, sounds like a disastrous "friend". As I see it you have two choices - stick to your guns about cancelling and tell your "friend" that she's the reason why OR, reinstate the weekend but explicitly disinvite the "friend' as her behaviour has been unacceptable. Not a v pleasant conversation but probably the only way you will have a nice weekend and you sound like you would be well rid of her.

Why don't you tell her to piss off, and go with all of your other friends? She sounds a nightmare, someone needs to stand up to her.

agree with then other - ditch this so called friend and go with your nice mates!

Why don't YOU stand up to her?

She sounds more like a 'frenemy' than a proper friend. Give her a real talking to about the alcohol issue & about her behaviour with your other friends; then go for the hen weekend but tell this friend she can only join you all if she's on her best behaviour. (maybe there's something going on in her life to make her behave badly?)

Ultimately it's your hen do not hers & she needs telling, hope it goes well.

Woah what exactly is it about this person that makes you want to continue a friendship with her??

Tell her, you're grown women, her behaviour is outrageous!

I'd plan whatever it is you actually want to do with the poor friend that got bullied- nothing worse than women acting like spoilt brats.. Ugh.

I agree. Uninvite this nightmare of a woman and go without her! She's the problem here. Tell her to sod off.

Why has uninviting this so called friend not crossed your mind? Seems the obvious solution to me.

Your "friend" sounds like a complete and utter bitch. Tell her to fuck off to the far side of fuck and then fuck off some more. Dump the nasty little cow and go on a hen night with your other friends.