To buy the boots I wanted?

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I met my friend yesterday with our 2 toddlers for a drink in a cafe. Afterwards she asked what I was doing and I said I needed to go and buy some new wellies for DD, so she said she'd come along too.

I had a particular shop in mind where I had seen some the other week, but didn't have DD with me to try them on her, so we went there. I found a nice pair which were yellow and navy and I was going to get them. My friend pointed out they also had them in pink, but I said I preferred the yellow. Then my friend decided she wanted to get some for her DS as well. (he can't quite walk yet, but he's cruising).

So we looked, but they didn't have any more in the right size - it turned out her DS and my DD have the same size feet, and I was holding the only pair in the right size. So my friend looked and said that they had the size in the pink, and told me it would be stupid of me to buy yellow for my DD because they had cars printed round the top, and I should give them to her for her DS and get the pink ones.

I felt a bit bad, but I really didn't want to get the pink ones, so I suggested we ask if they had any more in stock at the back, but they didn't.

So I asked my friend if she really minded if I bought the yellow ones, as DD really needs new wellies - she's 9 months older than friends' DS and needs them for when we go to the park etc. So friend said "whatever", so I bought the yellow, but it was obvious she was really pissed off. She was a bit distant after that, and then we parted to go home.

Now I feel a bit childish and as though I should have given in and let her buy the yellow ones. But I really wanted DD to have nice cheery yellow, not boring old pink - that's the main reason I went to that shop in the first place. Am I being mean, should I have let my friend have them?

She's being childish. Why would someone buy Welles for a child that can't even walk yet? Odd

No, you were right to buy the ones you wanted, she was being unreasonable trying to talk you out of it.

You think YOU were being childish?!

Erm, no. Your friend was.

Honestly, your poor DD having to wear wellies with cars on. You'll scar her for life, clearly.

Was your DD bothered which pair she got btw?

Yadnbu!!!

She wouldn't have even known about the Wellies if she hadn't been with you. And it's not like there is a welly shortage!

YANBU, it was you that wanted to get wellies in the first place and she came along. I think it was her being rude to suggest you handover the ones you were looking for, especially as she had no intention of buying wellies that day until she hijacked your idea. There are plenty of other shops that sell wellies that she can buy once her DS actually needs them which isn't yet seeing that he isn't walking unaided. Man my auto correct keeps trying to turn wellies into willies.

What babs said.

She wants to buy wellies for a cruising baby? WTF is the point of that?

YANBU. She was rude and I'm glad you didn't put your DD in pink wellies!

Your friend is being selfish, but can understand her angle. You were the one going there especially for wellies, it was an afterthought for her, but she had a cheek to expect you to buy the colour you said you did not want so she could have the ones that you wanted.

She acted like a spoilt child. Of course you could have been altruistic and put her wants before your own. But in this case you had the right and she the cheek and sulked as she didn't get her own way.

Phew, glad that everyone else thinks she is the unreasonable one .

I'm usually one for avoiding conflict and being a complete pushover giving in to keep the peace, and it seemed a bit childish to part on bad terms over a pair of kids' wellies. I don't like there to be bad feeling, so I have been mulling it over obsessively since yesterday.

Fuzzpig I don't think DD was bothered, she's not even two yet, so hasn't (yet!) taken too much interest in clothes. She does like cars though, and she can say yellow - "lelloo!"