to think that too many things are described on here as being 'needy'?

[Murphy0510]

Very frequently on here peoples' behaviour is described as needy. If you have lots of FB friends you are apparently needy. If you phone a friend to see if she's ok because she was quiet when you last saw her it's apparently needy.

Just saw on another thread earlier it's needy to ask people to go round to your house if you can't get a babysitter and go out.

Is it best to just sit at home all the time and never contact people, because surely contacting people is needy, right?

I agree, one person's definition of "needy" is someone else's perfectly reasonable expectation.

Look out for something that is the worst insult you can throw at a MNer: even worse than being 'needy' is coming over as 'entitled.'

You obviously read the other thread wrong...

You sound very entitled (to your opinion, which you are) and needy (in that you want people to agree with you.

I look at them as buzz words. Have been guilty of using them. In the process of finding alternatives as the meaning as become hazy.

YANBU and YABU.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me, however I do agree with you that the meaning of needy has become hazy on here

Almost every type of behaviour has been described as needy on here at at some point or another. It just makes me wonder what behaviour isn't needy and how some posters would describe an un-needy person.

I phone friends, and invite people round, and have friends on Facebook, and keep in regular contact with people. I don't need any of them but according to the MN jury all of those things could mean I'm needy.

I think we need two lists:

Needy behaviour

Un-needy behaviour

I've already seen two people being accused of being needy this morning. Despite not exhibiting needy behaviour. Odd

I agree I think the only way to avoid being "needy" would be stay in, alone and never dare move from the couch. Although, then you would have to ask someone to bring you food - which would be ultra needy.

I agree. But there seem to be a lot of words that posters throw around on AIBU when they are not really appropriate to the situation eg 'passive aggressive' when someone has actually made a perfectly upfront statement (saw that on a thread yesterday) or 'judgmental' when someone is simply expressing their view on a situation or stating that they were a bit shocked by x,y or z.
I think some posters don't really understand the terms they use but latch onto them because they see them used a lot on here.