to think if you cant come then dont?

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A group of us usually meet once a week. Previously we met at one friends house, last week I suggested we meet at mine then I don't need to book babysitter. Everyone happy with that. I spend all afternoon cleaning, buying food in etc.
Everyone due at half 7, just seen an email for usual hosting friend sent to everyone saying her DD is ill can we all go there.
They are due now and I've just ran round putting DC to bed etc and now I have no idea if anyone is coming.
Surely she have just said she couldn't make it, not rearranged the whole eve?

Hope you had a good time with the three that did turn up.

Very rude of her.

I agree with Maryz - YANBU.

wow, obviously if you are hosting a get together you have prepared stuff, to email an hour before is not on. and tbh how would she be prepared unless she planned it?

WTF? I'm sure you'd all LOVE to go to a germs infested house at a moments notice.

This friend doesn't sound like one I'd want.

YANBU. Really rude of her.

YANBU. SHe was being a control freeeeeak.

very rude of her indeed.

Is she on her own then?

Otherwise, why does an ill child mean it has to be at hers?

Also, if OP needs a babysitter, that probably would have excluded her from going.

She sounds very rude.

If she wants to host everytime-fine!

But surely not workable if others are then always paying out for travel/babysitters?

Well done OP and I'm glad you had a good time.

It is a weird situation and I hope you get to the bottom of it.

An hour and a half before an event is too late to email with a change of plans, even if everyone could in theory make it.

In the circumstances described, one person would not be able to come, either the OP (no babysitter) or the woman-with-ill-child. Since the woman-with-ill-child is the one whose circumstances changed, she should suck it up that she will be the one to miss out, not try to make it so that someone else misses out.

Did anyone coe?

Coe = come

Wow so rude! I agree that it would mean OP being excluded - so selfish!
Think you should probably all swap mobile numbers too.

YANBU, that was very rude. Surely she would know how much work goes into preparing to host?

What did the 3 that turned up say ?

If her DD was ill surely she have been concentrating on her child not as get together.

YANBU. Just say it is too late to rearrange and you cannot get a sitter. It's not fair on the OP but also everyone else who has to change their plans

Am I the only one reckoning her kid is fit as a fiddle really and like others have said trying to usurp the OP? If my child was ill last thing I would want would be more people to get under my feet iyswim. I'd be having a word with her about get together ettiquette. I'd be too about those that swanned off to hers without verifying anything!

Yes, I am also keen to know what the three who turned up said, and what the one who didnt turn up thought about this!

How rude! (not you)

I did ask her on her own first if she minded coming to me instead, but maybe she felt she couldn't say no?
You're too nice, op. She wasn't too shy to try to divert the party to her house after you'd spent the day preparing for it, was she? How would saying she did mind be any ruder than that?

I am too wondering what the 3 who turned to yours said about the email?

Agree with all the strangeness of the one who sent the e-mail cancelling.
I wouldn't want to pick up the ill child's germs and pass them onto my DC.

I wouldn't want to be host to a group with my DC being ill.
All very odd?