AIBU - To not reply to text messages

[ilovemy2babies]

AIBU to not reply to people who wished me happy birthday by text message?

Are they on PAYG ?
Because I am & therefore wouldn't reply if I had got lots as I would run out of credit!!

Are you sure the text was received?
If you ring, at least you know when you get through.

Some people don't reply as it's a bit of a lazy way of wishing happy birthday, maybe they would have wanted a card!

YANBU (or, as we now know, they are NBU).
As somone said on P1 - if I receive a card, I don't write back to thank them for the card. If I walk into the office and they burst into a chorus of 'happy birthday', I wouldn't feel the need to make a grea speech or anything.
Texts are messages, IMO, and, if not phrased as a question, don't need a reply.
Not everyone is on a contract either.

Maybe we'll see another thread in a minute from your friend, questioning why her friend didn't care enough to go to the effort of getting a card and sending it .......

"Happy Birthday" is a statement which requires no response.

"Did you have a nice birthday" is an enquiry and requires a response. Eventually.

Wouldn't that be like sending people a card to thank them for sending a card?

disclaimer - I am an old person and I hate conversation by text.

I would reply, but not necessarily the same day - on my birthday I went to work, rushed home to put 2 DCs to bed, got dressed and went out for dinner - had no time to reply to texts until the next day.

What was/is the timescale, ilovemy2babies? I agree with others that people don't necessarily have the time to text an instant reply, but a reply at some point would be nice.

I reply, but when I send them, it's out of my mind straight away and I wouldn't worry about whether they replied or not... If I did think about it, I'd probably assume they were busy. Why does it bother you?

YA also BU to not reply to people who wished you Happy Birthday on Facebook, by the way.

If i am not asked a question then i don't think i am expected to reply. You don't reply to birthday cards so no need to reply to a text. I strikes me as a bit needy to expect a reply.

In all honesty I think it's a bit uptight to be annoyed (or however you are feeling) that someone has not replied to a happy birthday text (depending on how personal the message was I suppose).

I'm not sure I would even notice, unless it was a dear friend and a very personal message, but if it was a dear friend I would speak to them to say happy birthday personally anyway I would imagine.

I dontthink you should be annoyed. Your pal shoud have replied but sometimes texts go astray and sometimes you just forget. It is not polite but its not a biggie.

When I was on PAYG I didn't. I would now, but I don't always have my phone on or near me or I might not be able to answer straight away - if I was driving for instance.

I'm also on PAYG and it costs me money to send a text. So I'm not going to thank someone sending me a happy birthday text, particularly if I get loads of them, especially bearing in mind that these are people who couldn't be bothered to send me a card.

Also, I wouldn't bother to contact someone to say thanks for a birthday card I'd got through the post (perhaps this is breaking some etiquette too?) and I don't see a text as any different.