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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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In thinking this wasn't entirely my fault and that DH is being a bit of an arse?

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sweetkitty · 13/03/2013 16:02

Have to off load this somewhere, car was going in for its MOT so DH was working at home mostly on the home of which is in the lounge/dining room.

My Dad is here doing done DIY stuff for us ( specialised we can't do it) so I'm trying to look after DD3 who is 4 and 2yo DS.

So DH goes to get car takes an hour longer than it should, whilst he's away I'm making lunch and trying to help/clear up after my Dad/look after DS.

I had moved things around to give my Dad space to work and caught DS typing away, told him off straight away, turns out he had locked DH out his works system.

Now DH has the utter hump with me, apparently it's all my fault as I was probably on Candy Crush oblivious because I had 10 mins on Candy Crush earlier in the day. I should have been watching him.

Well he should have bloody locked the keyboard or something and not left a vulnerable system live with a 2 yo about.

He was giving me this big menacing stare when I asked him a simple question, arse.

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 13/03/2013 16:05

YANBU - he should have made sure the system was safe!!

betterwhenthesunshines · 13/03/2013 16:05

He shouldn't have left his computer accessible to a 2 yr old. And he knows it, which is why he is being moody now.

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sweetkitty · 13/03/2013 16:07

Exactly. Never once has he said to me keep DS off the computer.

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complexnumber · 13/03/2013 16:51

I do think you need to take some responsibility here, though not all of it.

You need to keep your eye on a 2 y/o the whole time. But then he should have logged out.

fryingpantoface · 13/03/2013 16:56

I think it wasn't totally your fault, he should have moved the computer/shut it down

TheSeniorWrangler · 13/03/2013 16:59

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landofsoapandglory · 13/03/2013 17:02

How on earth do you keep your eye on a 2 yo the whole time, Complex?

YANBU. He should've locked the computer before he left.

fuzzywuzzy · 13/03/2013 17:10

Anyone with sensitive data on a computer locks it before leaving it.

His fault completely. I take it he is aware he has a 2 year old right?

His fault

Ignore him

BabyMakesTheBellyGoRound · 13/03/2013 17:17

Complex so parents of two year olds cannot go to the toilet,answer the phone,answer the door or do anything without their child in tow?

OP your dh should have shut down his computer.

Zalen · 13/03/2013 17:18

Absolutely not your fault, leaving a laptop unattended when connected to a works system is totally negligent, doing it with young children about is just plain stupid.

I do out of hours cover from time to time, I wouldn't leave the work laptop connected and unlocked with my husband in the house, let alone my children but that's entirely another story.

redwellybluewelly · 13/03/2013 17:20

Your DH is being an arse

My DH and I also work from home frequently, we both have very high spec kit and because we use command line programmes a few toddler keystrokes can cause chaos! We always lock PCs or move laptops out of the way.

Always.

MyLittleDiva · 13/03/2013 17:21

Not your problem. He needs to get over it.

HorryIsUpduffed · 13/03/2013 17:39

DH logs off the VPN before letting me on the computer, let alone leaving it unattended.

He has learned a sharp lesson and is presumably worried about getting a telling-off from work. It was reasonable for you to assume the main living space had been left child-safe.

complexnumber · 13/03/2013 18:04

"Complex so parents of two year olds cannot go to the toilet,answer the phone,answer the door or do anything without their child in tow?"

and

"How on earth do you keep your eye on a 2 yo the whole time, Complex?"

You both may well be right, but I still feel the OP shares some of the responsibility. I do not believe she would have let her 2 y/o mess about with the computer if she was in the same room and watching him. How long was he out of sight in order for him to do the damage?

But then again, maybe I have forgotten the challenges of looking after a 2 y/o along with other DC.

StuntGirl · 13/03/2013 18:10

Well you're both a bit to blame for it, but it was an accident and it's not the end of the world. I'm sure either he or the IT department can get him back in.

complexnumber · 13/03/2013 18:36

Well you're both a bit to blame for it, but it was an accident and it's not the end of the world. I'm sure either he or the IT department can get him back in.

Now that's what I should have said! (Thank you StuntGirl)

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sweetkitty · 13/03/2013 18:47

He got back in thankfully and did apologise, I think he was stressed with coming back from the garage Kate and missing an audio meeting.

As an aside yes sometimes you have to leave a 2 year old alone, I was upstairs getting a basketload of washing to stick in the machine. Also if I'm in the kitchen and he's in the living room he's out my direct sight. Things like going to the toilet and taking the bins out, you can't watch over them constantly.

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