To feel upset about this friend?

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I was close friends with a woman for about 3 years. We live near each other and our DCs are friends at school, and our younger preschool DCs are the same age and got on well. We had regular nights out together, met up for coffee and soft play, and kept in frequent contact.

About six months ago I introduced her to another friend of mine, who also has DCs at the school. The two friends knew each other to say hello to but didn't 'know' each other as such until I invited the other friend on a night out. We had about 3 nights out as a group of three.

Suddenly, my good friend started making excuses not to see me. She was always busy when I suggested meeting up, had no money for a night out, etc, so after a while of her knocking me back I came to the conclusion that she didn't want to be my friend anymore, and I stopped bothering with her. I am always polite if I see her, and always friendly, and I haven't bad mouthed her to anyone.

Now I've found out that she and the friend I introduced her to are the best of friends. Nights out, meeting for coffee, spa days, all kinds of things. So she was too busy and too skint to meet up with me anymore but has time and money to meet with this other friend of mine. They clearly don't care about my feelings as they put photos and statuses all over Facebook about it, and they never invite me to any of these things. They've arranged a night out for this Saturday, I found out on Facebook yesterday, and about 4 other mums from the school are going too, yet they've not invited me.

I know it sounds really pathetic but I'm so upset. I didn't do anything to deserve being ditched as a friend.

She is a serial best friender. I had one. Best buddies for 4 years and then I was dropped for someone else.

Then she dropped her and moved on. I don't think she has many friends now as she's pissed too many people off.

Give it a little while and she'll drop her new besty and move on to some other poor sod.

Don't feel bad, it says more about her being a bad friend than there being anything wrong with you.

It sounds like they've fallen out with you for some reason and have faded you out, sorry, must be hard to watch them now become such good friends.

Always happens to me! I now try not to introduce my best friends to each other and if I can help it I also try to keep my separate groups of friends separate! It literally always happens!

I wouldn't worry though, you'll make other friends I always do.

Yes there is a woman like this at sons school. Thing is she is on her third bestie now and did exactly what your friend did. People talk of course so now they avoid her.

Yes i've known a serial best friender too fortunately only from a distance . They just move on and invest everything into each new friend until someone better comes along. They are also manipulative and get the new bestie to drop their older friends leaving them with no/resentful friends, when they are ultimately dumped. Funnily enough this one is also running out of new people to move on to as well. People have now got her number.

YANBU to feel hurt. I would too.

You have two options you either call them on their behaviour in a jovial way eg I see you are all going out you bunch of wagons why am I not invited and watch them squirm or tell you about the time you dd did someting to their precious dd (normally the reason).
Or you rise above it say its one of them things we can all get on with everyone and make new friends.
If you dont have body odour or have not tried it on with her husband then you should take option 2 as to otherwise it where madness lies.
Goodluck

A good friend was "targeted" by one of these women a few years ago. She was bombarded with phone calls and invites. When my good friend refused to play ball and dump her other friends, the woman moved on to her next victim

I can see why you are upset, I think sometimes 3 can be an awkward number and sometimes one always feels left out or the lesser friend. I used to get caught up in this when i was much younger and my friends were everything to me and it can hurt. They haven't been very kind, so just chalk it up to experience and think you deserve better friends than that. This often comes back to bite them in the ass.