Without going into details but my exH's brother occasionally sends emails asking how my DC are doing. My DC were stopped seeing their father by the court due to welfare issues and choice (older ones). His brother has been a bit hopeless as an uncle but I haven't ever held it against him too much- he tries but isn't great with kids. Could try harder though now eldest are reaching 18+. He lives far away but could message them etc. I am also always suspicious of his motives and how much he is telling exH, but go along the lines I don't tell him anything I wouldn't be happy/it would be unsafe to tell ex.
The other day ex's brother emailed asking for some up to date photos of my DC, explaining his wife was keen to see what they look like and she wanted to update the photos in their lounge. I send a few from DDs leavers ball and a wedding we went to last year of just the DC together.
Today DD got a facebook tag from her grandmother - turns out these photos had been put onto facebook. DD was furious.There were comments under them with her uncle making out he sees her regularly and her dad who she refuses to talk to had commented 'my beautiful girl' and others complimented him on what a good job he'd done with her. (they obviously don't know the reality!)
I feel mixed- I sent the photos by email so effectively was passing on the rights of use into their hands but I feel a bit let down. He actively told me they were for their lounge, not that he was going to share them with all his facebook friends. He is aware of the bad relationship DC have with their father, and everything he put them through, but doesn't seem to have thought of that.
AIBU to be annoyed?