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AIBU To be Annoyed

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Octopus37 · 12/03/2013 16:39

Know this sounds petty, but haven't been very well for the last couple of days, fluey, bad chest, no energy, hardly did anything yesterday and haven't done much today, I rarely get ill but almost always just push through when I do, especially as I am self-employed and have no family nearby. Had to ask OH to pick up lempsips and my prescription from the docs for me on his way home from work, we were all supposed to be going out with friends for Pizza tonight, but have had to ask him to take both boys as feel so rough and haven't been eating much. Now I know that this is a tall order and that I have had to ask for favour and he did help me out and do what I asked but he was a bit arsey cause he had been delayed at work, delayed in traffic, had had to delay his friend for half an hour and had had to rush around. Please bear in mind that I rush around like a blue arsed fly every day, aside from when I am ill, haven't been this ill for over three years. Also have a good friend who is going through a really bad time at the mo and have been there for her through thick or thin over the last year, my choice and cause I have genuinely wanted to as she is a good friend. Yesterday phoned and left message to say that I wouldn't be picking my DC up from school as I was ill. I know that if the boot was on the other foot, I would have texted her to see how she was and ask if she needed anything. Sorry, bit of a pity party going on here, need to get over myself.

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 12/03/2013 16:56

i don't see why you think it's a tall order for your partner to pick up the slack when you are ill. That's what couples are supposed to do for each other! Partner is ill - you take care of what needs to be taken care of and when you're ill, they do the same. It's not really on that he was arsy about it.

Re your friend. maybe she would have helped out if you'd asked. Yes, it would have been nice to offer, but some people just don't think.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

And stop feeling guilty about your partner taking care of things. It's coming to something when that's even an issue!

diddl · 12/03/2013 17:09

Who are you annoyed with?

Your OH for making a drama out of something so trivial, or your friend for not asking how you are?

TBH, maybe your friend thought it was better to leave you to rest?

Why would she ask if she could do anything when you have a partner??

Octopus37 · 12/03/2013 17:26

TBH both of them. As you say a bit annoyed with OH for making a drama out of something so trivial when I usually keep going no matter what.. Re: my friend I can see your point, but know I would still have texted to say hope you are feeling better or something at the least. Realise how petty this sounds, its just that I try and do everything I can for my friends, whether or not they had a partner wouldn't come into whether or not I offered to help.

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diddl · 12/03/2013 17:31

I do agree that a text wouldn't have hurt.

If she's having problems, maybe she's still wrapped up in herself?

Not an excuse, just a reason.

Perhaps your OH's behaviour has made you find fault with your friend?

Or the thought that she doesn't care about you as much as you thought/that it's all a bit one sided?

Whoknowswhocares · 12/03/2013 17:47

Wtaf!
The idea that a father should be looking after his children (or getting his partner some medicine for that matter), not as a usual part of everyday life, but as some sort of 'favour'!!!!!!!!!!!!!
For considering it that, yabvvvu
For being annoyed, then obv you are not. Sounds like his lordship has got rather too used to someone (ie you) doing way too much, if this is his attitude to your being unwell.
Your friend. Probably wrapped up in her own troubles. If she's normally a good friend, then I'd let that one go tbh
get well soon

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