to find my friend whinging about having three kids a bit annoying.

[thegingerone]

Firstly let me apologise in advance. I've got the lurgy so my tolerance levels are low which is why I'm not being as accepting as usual. One of the mums from school is driving me bonkers using the fact that she has three kids to complain about how hard her life is. She's not struggling with them just feels that it shouldn't be up to her to "deal" with them. She constantly tried to fob them off on me. She's undecided about having a fourth which is obviously between her and her partner but she likes to talk stuff through with me. I realise we all have days when we need to have a moan whether we have one or ten kids but it grates on me that she expects me to be free childcare because she's annoyed by her children hanging around (her words) her house and because she has so many (her again) other people should people should have them around. Ps I'm mum to three too. Dc3 has just turned one .

I'm not questioning her life decisions or being all smug faced about having three myself. I just want to get it off my chest that I feel lucky to have my three and would like to tell this woman to put a sock in it sometimes.

I'd start yawning TBH.

It sounds a very dull conversation. Well, especially if you have to hear it regularly.

tolerance levels low... are you're sure you're up for AIBU?

Wait a minute you have three children but she expects you to take hers too?

YANBU

You should tell her to put a sock in it.

Some people just love to whinge don't they. Try swiftly changing the subject next time she goes off on one.

I'd suggest you try to avoid situations where you have to listen to her moaning. If she asks you to look after her children, say no, too busy. Job done.

She's complaining about having 3, yet considering a 4th?! I would move out of town if I we're you!

Don't provide her with free childcare, let her mind your own kids! When she mentions having another baby, point out that it will grow into another child that she is no longer interested in so she would be better off parenting to the ones she already has. I'm sure you can find a more diplomatic way of stating the obvious if you want to be polite about it

Loopdeloops ! I did ask myself that.
Ironic I know that I'm on here whinging about someone whinging but it might stop me telling her to faff off later and politely change subject. Perhaps my piles would be a suitable option.

I dont get people like this. I know two families that think its their right to leave their kids with grandparents every weekend. But they keep having more kids.

YANBU. I would avoid her tbh. I have very low tolerance for people like that!

Tell her to piss off and stop feeling sorry for herself, she is being pathetic and inconsiderate to your feelings. Tell her to cop herself on or find someone else to wind up.
I also have the lurgy, and 4dc to mind. No sympathy here.

It doesn't help that she's quite oblivious to everyone around her. I have been 'busy' so many times and she doesn't ever stop asking. I'm hoping she's planning to move on to her next 'host' soon. I realise I'm not being very 'village' about this. Growing up in Yorkshire I was always back and forth to my mates' houses. It was two way though and we were old enough to go out on our bikes or bake a cake ( and tidy up).

Anyway thanks for letting me whinge and feel vindicated. You''ve prob stopped a messy and. embarrassing scene in the playground later when I drag my snotty face to school and could have lost the plot with her.

She's considering a fourth, when it's not her job to deal with the three she already has? [jmm]. What an idiot.

Tell her to fuck off,you've enough to be doing.

I am constantly amazed by how many mothers out there actually do this - or seem to head straight to me when they do - I have 3 but there was one woman who was constantly askingme to have her dd and it was basically pick her up from pre-school with my dd and thenhave her until 6pm (when hubby came home) because she was such good friends with my dd - she had various excuses - hospital appointments because she was constantly ill, depression, taking a friend to the hospital - she was also depressed because she was on Clomid (?) to try and get pregnant again and nothing was working - I started to make my excuses only to find that once I got rid of her another one popped up!! In your case you are in the exact same situation as her - you have 3 she has 3 - start agreeing with her and make up stuff about how tired you are - how you can't cope - could she just have one of yours (then 2 then all 3 on x y and z) - she'll soon move on!

Rush out of the room, breathless, and return with a packet of condoms for her, saying hope that helps ...