To think actually the resident parent does have all the responsibility.

[Manchesterhistorygirl]

Rant coming.

I was on the train this morning and there was a man telling another man exactly how he felt with the CSA.

Amongst other snippets he said;
The child was an "expensive mistake".
He didn't see why he should pay £50/week
He would advise only giving a basic salary to the CSA, see if you can get away with paying less.
And
"She has all the money and rights and none of the responsibility."

I wish I'd been brave enough to confront him, but a packed commuter train is probably not the place to start an argument. There were plenty of dirty looks being thrown his way, from men and women, but what a low life scumbag.

So Aibu to think that poor child to have that as a father.

£50 per week goes such a loooooonggg way.

yanbu.

what rights?

You should have said something. A packed commuter train is a great place for standing your ground - someone is unlikely to start something dodgy in a packed train.

It doesn't have to be an argument - a simple comment would suffice. I'm not a particularly confident person but would definitely have said something along the lines of 'None of the responsibilty? You're kidding right? So you think £200 pays for everything for a month? You think the child looks after itself or is that your ex's RESPONSIBILITY?'

Two people having a private conversation with one another on a train and the OP should have confronted them?

Just why?

If he had been ranting to everyone/anyone who would listen then fair enough.

But he wasn't so why would she butt in?

Confronted? No.

Disagreed with them? Yes.

Why? Because what he said was wrong and their views are offensive to those who are struggling as single parents with dead beat ex partners. How do people ever change offensive views unless they are challenged? What if it was a racist comment? What if it was a comment that was offensive to those with disability? Would you think any differently?

No I wouldn't think any differently.

I would still think two very ignorant cunts were having a private conversation that they're entitled to have with each other.

As I said, if he had been ranting/talking to everyone or anyone on the train, then I would have given him a piece of my mind.

A tosser like that really isnt worth the effort. Its not like hes suddenly going to have an epiphany because some stranger on a train said something.

Sadly, men like him do exist.

Well I would certainly discuss it with him. I think it's important to do this (if it's a safe environment). I'm actually quite sad to know others wouldn't.

They might not change their own views but they might think twice about declaring them in public. I can only imagine how that conversation would make a single parent feel if they were sat in the same carriage. I'd be grateful if someone was my voice if I wasn't confident enough to say something myself.

So Aibu to think that poor child to have that as a father.
No.

Even if you confronted him, he'd never change his mind.

Of course not Lueji. He sounds like a right prat of a Dad!

You never know though. People do change their minds sometimes!

I wish I'd have said something, but really Pre 8 am is not my finest hour. The conversation was loud enough for me to hear three rows back! Not really private at that volume.

I know that shit my friends have had to put up with from deadbeat arseholes and it made my blood boil to hear this idiot going on about his expensive mistake.