to want another baby NOW

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DD is 15mo. DH and I.both work fulltime (shiftwork for.me so childcare is not 9-5,mon-fri).

My dm is a CM so she has dd and we pay £200pcm (dm didnt want anything, we insisted). This alone is my.main reason for waiting til dd is in ft school before having another - I dont want to take advantage.

I want another baby and so does dh. In my head we are waiting til dd starts school.but I have such a strong emotional pull to want a baby sooner. Much sooner. Id try ttc tonight if dh wasnt so bloody practical.

We live in a two bed gf flat which is big enough for.four. but ideally we would like a house. We have little to.no equity.so. moving yet is out of the question yet dh thinks we shouldnt move and ttc at the same time (but it will come down to this in a few years anyways!).

Arghggg.......my ovaries!

YANBU

I wouldn't wait.

YANBU. If I genuinely wanted another, I wouldn't wait. When we were kids, sharing was the norm! Not many kids had their own rooms. Besides, the new baby would be in with you for a while/until s/he slept through, so no worries for older DC.

You are broody for a reason.

I have 23 months between each of mine and it's great!

If you can possibly find a way of making it work, I'd go for it. Took me ten days to conceive my ds, then a year each time after that. Planning doesn't always pay off.

(Not entirely sure I'm helping. Sorry.)

Our flat is big enough that we can (and have in the past) used the second bedroom for the main bedroom. So even if we were here til our kids were teens they maybe could share the big bedroom depending on gender.

I had a surge of hormones at six.months post birth amd dh said "calm down tis your hormones" and he was right, a fortnight later I was off the idea.

Dont want to approach it seriously with him yet....til I can say "Ive been feeling like this for months!"

We are both 28 so age wise can wait but I dont think I can bear it. I thought he would be up for havibg dcs close together as theres a year between each of his siblings whereas theres a seven year gap between me and my dsis [which I like!]

DH even had a snuggle with a friends newborn today and even that didnt make him yearn.

YANBU

PFB is 16 months and we've been trying for No2 since she was 4 months :(

Got pregnant with DD straight away so didn't think it would be a problem next time. I really wanted them close in age and as with you there is never a good time - changing jobs, moving house etc etc.

Plus we are medically "older Parents" at 36 < shuffles to zimmer frame >

I think if the biological calling is there then you should go for it, after persuading DH the time is right now of course....
You may want to run childcare past your DM too though. You don't want to land yourself with top whack childcare costs without planning for them.
I hope you get to make it work for you. Being broody is not as fluffy as often implied.

I really want another (DD is 22 months) but we can't afford it. I still think about it all the time though. I have to keep my biological urges under control

I struggled to conceive second time aged 28. Despite the immediate conception when 25. Age isn't always a guarantee it will all work easily second time.

Surely your DM would assume 5 year gap just because she CM for you? Ask her if it would be reasonable, my DM loved it. You have got time on side but its a financial burden having children full stop. If its not too much of a struggle I would do it.

wouldn't assume

Sorry

Well, ive had a chat with dh and we are going to start ttc!! Eek, I had a little cry I was so happy.

I figured Id be off a good eight months or so mat leave should we be lucky enough to conceive, so DM wont have them.both til dd1 is at least 2.8 and shed be in nursery a few months after that.

My wooooorrrdddd.

HURRAY!

Yey! Excellent news. Best of luck.

It feels even more exciting than last time round! Might have to get on a conception bus thread!