To suggest that my husband's increasing weight is NOT down to me

[cleofatra]

My Dh has put some weight on lately. He has a bit of a belly but is not yet at the point where it will be an issue for either his health or our relationship. He has recently made a big change to his life and is readjusting to these changes and stress and will be getting more active over the next few months.

The thing is, I am being bombarded with comments, from his family and friends, which suggest I am to blame.

"You must be feeding him up".
"What are you feeding him?"

That kind of thing.

AIBU to say his weight is his bloody responsbility and nothing to do with me??

We eat well at home but it's the little visits to get a bacon sarnie at the cafe here or there, biscuits and tea on his many visits to mates and clients in the day and the loads of bread he adds to meals that has done it.

This gets my goat...

I know exactly what you mean. I have to listen to similar comments. YANBU!

I'm not surprised you're annoyed. That would piss me right off too!

YANBU!!! Clearly as wifey you are soley responsible for what he puts in his mouth

It's nearly as irritating as people who think men are incabable of using a postbox.

"This gets my goat.."

Well at least he cant eat it if its gone..

Tell his family he's a big boy now and perfectly able to feed himself.

Just say his belly, his responsibility.

I get this all the time too! Yes as a sahm mum it is me who does all the cooking of family meals. However the reasons why dh has put on weight are similar to what the op described. Also he often does himself supper just before.he goes to bed. I get all the comments the op gets. However I have always been very slim/underweight as are our children!

I agree with YouTheCat

Be baffled.

"I just don't understand it. All the baby books say an 8 ounce bottle every 4 hours. The health visitor says he's at the top of the charts. Maybe I should switch to on demand, but the Gina Ford books have served me so well to date..."

go on and on and on until they back away in horror and never open their mouths again.

What really annoys me though is when anyone comments to dh on his weight he points to me and says its good living or my wife lovely cooking etc thereby reinforcing everyone's comments!!!

Would you rather he said he has to fill up on crap because you burn everything?

That really made me lol thecat! :)

It seems rude for them to keep commenting on his weight at all.

Youthecat pmsl

DH just told me it's my fault he's fat.

As an Irish catholic mother I am a feeder lol. I feel feeding my family is an act of love and care . Try not to get upset when they blame you just laugh and say yea thats how much I LOVE him.

Exactly same here. I will not take responsibility for the 10 inchs he's gained around his fat gut in the last 14 years...i still wear size 8 &I've had 5 dc.

Dp said if i gave up smoking, he would lose weight...
6 weeks later Im still not smoking but he's still eating junk food.

None of the children are overweight. Theres minimal snacks in the house so its down to Dp to take responsibility his weight.

Look concerned and say you think your DH has been eating food that hasn't been pre-approved by you. That in itself wouldn't worry you, but you're concerned this might lead onto him thinking he could make other decisions all by himself.

I get the same comments about my husband he is a bit slimmed down ATM but his weight can go up and down , last time I said well if he wasnt nipping into macdonalds for lunch he wouldnt have a gut would he