To be annoyed with my flatmate about her new puppy?

[Drunkandwearingflipflops]

Three weeks ago my flatmate bought an 8 week old puppy. We have a 2 bedroomed house & garden & she was desperate to get one. I felt like I couldn't object as I had a dog myself when we moved in together (he died last summer) He was really old and basically just slept all day though.

Basically though my flatmate is working full time at the moment whilst I work at home. Therefore I am pretty much spending my days feeding and clearing up after a puppy that isn't even mine. I love animals and he is adorable but puppies are hard work! I also found out off her this morning that she will be out after work today, Tuesday and Wednesday. So I am pretty much going to be puppy sitting all day and night long!

Am I being unreasonable to be feeling pretty pissed off right now? If I had realised she was going to put such little effort into looking after him I would have objected right away. Now she has him I feel as if anything I say will make me seem a right cow!

I would be furious, but to be fair, you have to tell her.

No it won't.

If you're not happy to look after her puppy, then tell her that you aren't going to do it and she needs to hire someone to take care of him.

Start going to a coffee shop to work, or something.

It is an awful situation, but you do have to confront her about it - does she actually realise how much you are doing puppy sitting?

Yes I'm going to have to say something aren't I?

I hate conflict though. It's why people end up thinking they can walk all over me! I'm starting to feel that there is no regard for me whatsoever. I came back from a weekend away at my parents this morning to find all the teabags used and not replaced. All her dirty plates left unwashed in the kitchen & a shredded puppy pad all over the living room floor.

Wound. I don't see how she couldn't notice. I just don't know how she can think it's OK to buy a puppy and then not see it all day/night for days in a row.

It's going to be an incredibly awkward conversation. I am not looking forward to it at all.

It is your house and you shouldn't be a prisoner/puppy sitter or be bullied in to looking after an animal you didn't want. Is there any way you can make yourself unavailable ...

That's ridiculous. You need to say something ASAP. Why did she buy a puppy when she works full time and goes out so often after work, is she expecting it to toilet train and entertain itself? Poor pup and poor you!

Rehome the puppy, if she notices it's gone, pretend you know nothing.. mwah ha ha haa

Puppy is going to think it is yours if your stupid flatmate doesn't bother with it. Poor bugger, no doubt it will end up in a rescue in a few months time when she realises just how much work and commitment dogs really are. I fecking hate people like your flatmate, sorry.

But unless you want the puppy, you will have to say something (along the lines of 'why the f* did you get a puppy if you work full time').

She sounds a nightmare and this is just cruel with a puppy, don't fall into the trap of "Good old Drunk will take care of him". Speak up tonight!

She is being very irresponsible, poor puppy

Ironically she didn't go out so much before she got him. She had a boyfriend and had fallen into the, 'Never going out cos I've got a man' mentality. She rushed out and bought a puppy to make herself feel better. But now she's socialising more. I actually can't believe she's spending so little time with him. I never thought she would be like this! i

I think I'm just going to have to be out more myself. I do go out, but more mainly on a weekend (when she's around to see to puppy conveniently enough!)

I feel awful because he's a lovely puppy and I am used to looking after dogs. I just haven't the patience to be dealing with an animal that isn't even mine 24/7!

Poor puppy! You need to be out on Tuesday and Wednesday night I'm afraid. People are just so selfish, it really grips my shit (not you OP!)

Is it your house or rented? If it's yours give her notice and she can take her puppy with her.

If it's rented then you're just going to have to tell her that you won't be looking after her puppy all day and that she either makes arrangements or sells it.

please convince her to re home, dogs need dedication, and the more they get the better the outcome,

this is not going to end well if she doesn't face the fact she hasn't the time to give the dog the time it deserves.

If she can be the bigger person and admit she has made a mistake, the dog is in with a chance of finding a dedicated forever home, they longer she takes to face this reality, the less chance the dog has.

good luck.

It's rented. I don't really want to move out at the moment though if I'm honest. She used to be lovely to live with but recently she's getting very selfish about things. I need to address it but I'm bad at handling these sorts of things.

My friend is coming over tomorrow night (to play with the puppy ironically) but I definitely need to be out Wednesday night I think!