to ask if anyone here has continued living with partner after seperating...

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...and Ask how did all the finances work?

Any replies and advice would be greatly appreciated :)

I did for 18 months while we sold the house, but it was many years ago and I can't really remember about the finances. I think we just shared out the bills 50/50. I do remember not doing his ironing any more which was rather nice.

I need to know this as well - please pipe up everyone!

We left all the money pretty much as it was. Our salaries went into our own accounts and we then had an equal standing order going into our joint account. We both earned a similar salary. He was very fair, but so was I.

Yes, for about 2 weeks whilst I found somewhere to rent. Our house was lovely and as soon as people heard we were splitting up we had people knocking on the door offering to buy it. Those 2 weeks were hell.

if you intend to claim benefits then you must be very sure that your finances are totally seperate.

Yes for 9 months; finances continued as normal except he'd paid a partion of my rent so we went a definite 50/50 rather than a 'pretty much' 50/50 xx

I did, for a little while. The finances were the same as when we were a couple, except we started splitting the children's expenses exactly 50/50 whereas up until then I had paid more towards those things just because I'd organised them.

thanks for the replies. My ds is 2 so at the mo I am at home full time so have bern financially dependent on partner.

we've seperated but neither of us can afford.to move out. I'd need some sort of income so I can pay my half of the bills and rent. Would I be entitled to benefits until I find employment??

Yes you would. I know my ExH told me he was leaving and we split the finances, I got my own account and claimed tax credits in my name alone. I made it clear he was still living in my house but we were no longer together.

I think you can also claim the benefits that you can claim as a single person not working opn that basis also.

I lived with my exH for 12 months. We split bills and mortgage 50/50. We did our own cooking, tidying up and washing. Cleaning done x2 a week of communal areas once by me and once by him.

The separate cooking and washing was on the advice of my solicitor, something to do with being seen as 'couple' type things which could have affected what we wanted to be a straight forward divorce. (parents were very difficult about It and kept sticking their oar in)

As soon as he finished uni and got a job he moved out. It was not easy, but when we separated there was no way he could have finished his degree and lived independently. Setting the ground rules helped no end I believe and I think the knowledge that if he pissed me off he would have been booted out pronto as I bought him out so technically he was my lodger

Its nice to hear that it can be don't and we are not the only ones in this situation!

There is no way one of us could afford to move out whilst the house is being sold so we are going to have to find a way of living together. First thing will be to split all our finances again, and setting some ground rules on washing etc.

I lived with exP for six months after we split
I naively transferred half of the money for bills to him and he paid them
Except that during those six months I met someone (now DH), exP got pissed off and stopped paying the mortgage...

writer Kingslet Amis did. But they had a big big house.

Yes, for 9 months post-divorce. Would not recommend it.

Yes, for a few months until our house sold. It was horrendous and I don't know how I managed.

That said, it was horrible because he had left me for another woman who wouldn't let him live there full time due to finances/benefits; so he stayed at home three nights a week. It being a joint mortgage etc I couldn't do anything about it. Awful.