To wonder if dads do prefer sons?

[LabradorWanders]

I know this wouldn't apply to the majority of dads, but I noticed on a recent thread about dads who made very little effort/messed around with contact/became absent, that every single poster had a daughter rather than a son.
I know this was probably just coincidence, but I also only know 1 son with an absent father, whereas there are a few girls.
Also it got me thinking back to my DD's (now fairly uninvolved) dad's desperation for a son rather than a daughter during the pregnancy.

Is this something other people have noticed too, or is it just me?

ShowOfHands

SOH that's the funniest post I have ever read.
You are clearly bonkers.

YANBU to think that many men would prefer sons - sadly many people are not terribly bright and place far too high a value on the gender of people in their lives, making sexist and unhelpful generalisations instead of treating them as individuals.

My mum was so worried about this when having us. She had two girls in the end.

Didn't find out the gender for either pregnancy, and the first words out of her mouth upon the arrival of DD2 to my dad were 'Another girl, are you disappointed?'

To which my Dad replied: 'Just look at her, how could I be disappointed?'

I love my parents

We have 4dd's, dp says he wouldn't have preferred a boy, mainly as he worries about not being very sporty Anyhoo we haven't found anything that only boys can do that girls can't so its a non issue really.

According to my "mother" you are only a real woman if you can give your husband a son as all men want sons apparently. Of course she was so clever producing one of each and told me this when I had 2 DDs.

We had a lot of "trying for a boy" with nos 3 and 4and when no4 was indeed a boy we got a lot of "your husband will be happy you can stop now"

In our minds DC4 was always going o be DD4, quite a shock when he turned out to be a DS. He's quite lovely though.

DH never really expressed a preference but he ha since said he's happy we have a boy as he's just so different o the girls.

My dh is desperate for a girl.

He adores our boys but I think he feels a bit incomplete.

And I know 2 dads who don't bother with their ds's. think it's coincidence.

Thinking about it, yes, I have seen this

Even to the point with SiL's ex, that he only wants contact with his son, completely ignores his 2 girls, and applied for custody of his son

We've got girls, I think deep down DH would have liked a son, but he's perfectly happy with what he's got. One of them even plays football with him

No OP, I have never noticed that. I think if a father is not going to bother with his child he will not be bothered whether that child is male or female.

Your perspective is coloured by your own experience in this case I think.

I think of the men I know who are seperated and they definitely dote more on the girls. Its the daddys girl thing I suppose.

I think dads who behave differently because of the gender of their children have either been raised by parents who told them that boys were better or are insecure in their virility.
Thank god my husband is so secure and confident in the man he is that he absolutely adores his daughters.