AIBU to think if there's no spark you can't make one appear?

[HarryTheHungryHippo]

Actually hoping IABU
Ds's father is a wonderful man and a brilliant father. We are great friends and could spend every day together and never get sick of each other.
When we split it was reasons beyond our control and other things getting the best of us. However for a long time before we split out romantic life was not great. I used to put it down to ds, pregnancy etc but actually I do really enjoy sex I think the spark was just missing with us. It feels awkward when we kiss and I struggle to get into sex and even more to climax.
This feeling is on my side, he enjoys it but men are wired differently and not the complex creatures we are

If its not there it's never going to be is it?

big not omg

Thanks everyone for taking the time to reply.
I think I'm just going to leave it to be honest. As hard as it is it wouldn't be fair to him to try, tell him how I feel and risk not being able to change it. It would crush my confidence if someone told me I didn't turn them on let alone if they told me, we worked on it and I still didn't do it for them
He deserves a good relationship with someone who does feel that way towards him, I'm just sad it couldn't be me but maybe it just wasn't meant to be.
P.s thank you especially to Valium and everlong - you are like the angel and devil on my shoulders giving me opposing views but are both absolutely correct

I wouldn't tell him either OP, I agree it would crush him and clearly it's not something he can just fix.

Personally i don't think I could sleep with someone who I didn't fancy

harrythehungryhippo Just be careful, and consider this, sometimes, when you feel as you described, and they meet someone new, and it takes if, it can make you fancy them rotten because A. They are no longer available for you, and B.Another woman is finding him very attractive, and you sort of see them through fresh eyes. It might be worth just trying to imagine how you would really feel if you had to step aside, and watch him being loved and fancied by another.

Hope that helped, and good luck with your decision !

*takes off

I agree with other posters I cant see this working long term.