Ok, this is a bit long and complicated, so I will try and write a concise version. My husband has become increasingly verbally abusive in recent months, not jus calling me awful things but also telling our DD, who is 9, that I am these things. Like most verbally abusive people, he can be lovely and charming but switches very quickly. Then last night, the situation escalated and he said we needed to 'separate our lives more' and he now intends to 'move' his salary out of out joint account and I will have to pay all the bills out of mine.
The thing is , I have worked from home as a freelancer for the past 10 years and, as any freelance writer will tell you, it's really hard to make a good living at the moment. I could only pay a fraction of our fixed outgoings out of my salary alone. To make matters worse, we signed all the paperwork last month to buy our own place. I'm just feeling really vulnerable and scared, terrified that I am going to be left in a shockingly bad financial situation and that my poor DD will also get dragged into it.
To complicate matters even further, we live outside the EU and have work permits that are linked to his contracted job, so if he divorces me, I will lose my right to live here and he will, as a result, almost certainly be given custody of our DD, which would break my heart - not least because I wouldn't even be able to live in the same country as her anymore.I haven't lived here very long and don't have any close friends because I work from home and feel so sad and lonely today. Any advice would be much appreciated because I'm crazy with worry and have no-one to turn to. And sorry this didn't end up being very concise!