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To Change my name

22 replies

McNewPants2013 · 10/03/2013 23:50

Unless MN can tell me otherwise i will not.

I want to change my name legally to christian name middlename-maiden name married name.

told family members and husband all all against it.

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Buzzardbird · 10/03/2013 23:54

Of course you can, its simple. Anyone can change their name. See a solicitor.

AlfalfaMum · 10/03/2013 23:56

Why are they against it?

Grockle · 10/03/2013 23:58

You don't need a solicitor. You can do it online for about £10. If you google, there are several sites & lots of information.

Why are people against it? Does it matter what they think?

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McNewPants2013 · 11/03/2013 00:02

I think it because they are living in the 1920 where i should just take my husband name.

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Grockle · 11/03/2013 00:04

You are taking his name. There's no rule that says you can't also keep your maiden name.

When I was married I became first name, middle name, maiden name, married name

and when I got divorced, I just dropped the married name.

AlfalfaMum · 11/03/2013 00:06

Oh, in that case YA defo NBU. In fact why not keep your original birth name like me lots of women?

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McNewPants2013 · 11/03/2013 00:09

I want the same surname as my DC however i want to keep my maiden name (god i hate that term)

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FakePlasticLobsters · 11/03/2013 00:12

I wish I'd kept mine and gone double-barrelled now. It's been twelve years though so I probably won't change back and add it in now.

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McNewPants2013 · 11/03/2013 00:14

we have been married almost 2 years now and i havent been able to face changing my name.

I have been using my new name for a few weeks, nothing offical but i quite like it enough to make everything offical

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McNewPants2013 · 11/03/2013 00:24

been looking online, but who can be witness

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Grockle · 11/03/2013 00:27

Anyone not related to you, I think. I can't remember who did mine.

FloraFox · 11/03/2013 00:35

If you are in Scotland, McNewPants (judging you by your nn), you don't need to change your name. Your legal name is FirstName MiddleName MaidenName or MarriedName (yes, including the "or") and you're free to use whichever one you want or both.

golemmings · 11/03/2013 01:41

You can have a passport which states your married and your maiden name. I use both - although after 10 years I still struggle to remember who I am when people ask. Work is my maiden name, family stuff is my married name and as for anything else... well that's a bit hit and miss!

I was adopted and I added my birth name as a middle name when I got confirmed as a teen. Nobody batted an eyelid that my birth /adoption certificate has a different name from EVERYTHING else.

sashh · 11/03/2013 06:35

You can do a deed poll for free.

If you are getting married you don't need to do that, just send you marriage certificate off for your new passport with the names as you want them.

HeadFairy · 11/03/2013 06:38

yanbu, I couldn't bear losing my maiden name. My dad was an only child and his father had 5 sisters and no brothers, so there's no one left with my surname (literally in the UK, a couple in Italy but none related to me) and it's a name with historical significance, so I was definitely keeping it. My dcs have it too (nearly killed my incredibly old fashioned FiL, my fantastic dh was unequivocal in telling him to F off when he kicked up a fuss about the dcs having both names)

ZillionChocolate · 11/03/2013 06:47

If they are very traditional, wouldn't they rather you had DH's name than not?
It sounds to me like you can't please everyone. They can chose their own names and you should chose yours.

Somewhat incredibly, I think the court service leaflet says you need your spouse's consent.

kiwigirl42 · 11/03/2013 07:18

the court service leaflet says you need your spouse's consent

really? bloody hell. We are in the 21st century, aren't we?

I'm interested in this thread as would like to change my first name officially. I hate my christian name and only ever get called a diminutive - makes my skin crawl when hospitals etc use my full name

StuntGirl · 11/03/2013 08:16

Bollocks to 'em McHappy, do what you like. I wouldn't be changing my name (not a maiden name, MY name) for anyone.

Gice your kids YOUR name! Why is it any different to giving them your partners name?

StuntGirl · 11/03/2013 08:17

God I don't know where I got McHappy from Hmm

McNewPants, sorry!

BonnieWeeJeannieMcCall · 11/03/2013 08:23

When I married I went from Firstname Maidenname to Firstname Maidenname Marriedname. I usually sign Firstname M. Marriedname.

As I'm in Scotland I didn't have to do anything, just started using my new name. MIL did exactly the same when she married and I've a friend who also did the same.

I have had no problems whatsoever.

ThreeWheelsGood · 11/03/2013 08:35

I completely changed my surname by deed poll, very straightforward, just use deed poll to inform authorities (work/hmrc, bank, driving licence etc). As you're married and looking to use husband's name, you should be able to use your wedding certificate in the same way, write a cover letter stating your new full name.

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McNewPants2013 · 11/03/2013 22:32

booked a soilictors today, as i cant think of anyone to witness the change.

Bollox to them all, what are they going to do any how.

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