To think Mother's Day causes a lot of angst.

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It nearly rivals Christmas.

It's utterly pathetic, the state some people get themselves into over one day

No angst here. Had a lovely day

......and birthdays and Valentines......

It's quite sad how many people seem to put so much value on a couple of days out of the year. Either they get no love or appreciation the rest of the time, or they completely forget about it on these dates and upset themselves.

I do wonder what some people actually want - some posts give off the impression nothing would have been good enough the mood their in and the expectations they've built up.

No angst here- a lovely day.

It should just be a lovely day... Just having lunch together or making a phone call... Brilliant.

All this crying because your DH got you the wrong present is frankly an embarrassment to women!

I wonder if fathers day will prompt a thousand threads about ungrateful fathers pulling faces at their presents?

I said no one was to bother, I have flowers and chocolates no angst, except I don't need chocolate.

If I suggest people remember, I get angst.

Yanbu, I got a fave when I told a friend we'd done normal Sunday stuff and Ds went out with gps as usual.

I got a card made by Ds. That made it special for me

YANBU. I've had a crappy day, and I know it's just another day, but just one day of the year I'd like to be shown that I'm appreciated.

All day I've told myself I'm lucky to have two healthy DC & still have my own mum around.

Doesn't stop me wanting DH to make me one cup of tea this year on behalf of the DC though

There is angst in my house. Mainly because DD(17) is insisting on cooking dinner, but asking me every 10 seconds what to do next and telling me I'm not allowed to move. I can see the whole kitchen falling apart in front of me and there is nothing I can do about it.

On the upside, I have a glass of wine, which is very unusual for me and it's going right to my head!

Mothers day = At least 20% of my local Asda turned over to displays of flowers,cards,chocs etc etc.

Valentines Day = Ditto.

Fathers Day = A rack of comedy underpants and socks at the back of the store.

I had NO idea people took today so seriously until I read the stuff on here. I honestly don't get what is so important. If you feel undervalued as a mother it is something you need to address all year round not just one day of the year.

And the issue around presents is just odd. I think Beertricks hit the nail on the head, it seems to be an issue around expectations.

No angst, didnt get anything, but tomorrow, greggy here, is gonna eat a ton of chocolate.

Just been a normal sunday here, except with a nice handmade card which was nice. Think it seems a bit mean in some ways to suddenly expect our kids to appreciate the fact we look after them

I'm yet to actually witness any of this MD drama irl. I keep reading about it, but it just doesn't seem to manifest amongst any people I actually know outside of AIBU.

We went to a Christening today so it was a fairly manic morning trying to make my feral and urchin-like children and husband presentable. Prior to that, I was presented with a lovely card, bunch of flowers, and a cup of tea in a new mug they got for me. Lovely. Otherwise it's been a pretty standard Sunday.

Yep, lovely letter and card from DS and lots of cuddles. And two cups of tea. Have had a lovely quiet day. I really don't see what the fuss is about and I am usually any excuse for a fuss.

Well today I had breakfast and a cup of tea in bed made by my dc with help from dh. Fantastic homemade cards homemade cornflake cake and Thorntons chocs from ds1 and a giant box of maltesers from ds2! Dinner was made by dh (highly unusual) and this afternoon I watched nanny mcphee cuddled up to my boys. This I'm drinking wine and eating chocolates. It's been a good day!

I don't get it either. Didn't get a lie in (single parent now), and DS gave me a card he'd made at school (I was in same room at time helping other kids).

I'm bowled over by my DS's love for me and vice versa everyday.

Lots of people on my FB have posted photos showing a spread of gifts such as Pandora charms, dvds, chocs, etc - I'm not a material person and can't say I understand it. Surely actions of appreciate show more than store bought "stuff"?

Yes it does create a lot of angst when you are the mother who gets completely ignored. It's not "pathetic" when you regard it as important.

Those of you who are saying you don't see why people are bothered do actually seem to have had some sort of token from your children (or from your dh on their behalf) so I don't know that you can really comment on not understanding why others feel neglected.

My first mothers day on MN and I have to say I don't know anyone in RL that gets their knickers in a twist about what others are doing or gifts others receive for Mothers' Day, the way that some people do on here.

I've had a lovely day and got spoiled by my DH on behalf of/along with my DS.

Yes I know I'm not my DH's mother, however, because he is a considerate man he realises that my DS is too young to organise some MD appreciation for me, so my DH did instead.

Yes my present and card were shop bought, and probably by some people's standards expensive, but we can afford it and they were just as thoughtful as a home-crafted card and gift.

Our meal out was wonderful and no it wasn't overpriced, overcrowded and rushed.

So there.

For me any sort of acknowledgement even if its just a handmade card and a cuppa in bed is lovely. As always on these occasions trouble starts with unrealistic expectations. When others are tweeting pictures of roses and pandora charms and maybe your day hasn't turned out as planned it's easy to feel a bit :( Remember this day is being driven by retailers and marketing and has little to do with mums.

DrGoogle how lovely for you. I didn't even get wishes, let alone a card, present or meal. Take your smuggery and deposit it elsewhere.

OP, you should read some of the other threads on here. Quite enlightening.