To be so pissed off with this.

[Poppet48]

Fiancé left me in November when I was 4 weeks pregnant, Completely out of the blue walked out on Me and my 18 MO DS.

He sees DS 3 hours a week by choice as he 'Doesn't have time' to see him more than that.

Pays absolutely nothing towards DS, didn't buy him a card or present at Christmas as he 'Has no money' even though he goes out every week.

I get a text an at 3 in the morning on Saturday saying 'Cant pick DS up, You'll have to drive', I ask why and the next text comes in at 11:30am; 'Don't feel well, Went out last night, Too hungover to see DS'.

AIBU to be furious about this?

Despite all of this I am still completely in love with him and I hope and pray that he comes back to me

How can you love someone who is so cruel to their own child?

What is there to love?

Oh poppet, come on love. When you hold your DS in your arms and think there is nothing you could love more on this earth just remind yourself his father can't even be bothered to bloody stay sober for him, or give up time or money for him. When you think you'd fight the world to defend your DS remember you'll probably be fighting your ex too in that. DH and I would fight for DD TOGETHER. She is everything to us.

When he left you pregnant, to deal with a hell of a lot on your own, he did not show you one ounce of the love you are still wasting on him.

Think about your kids, and what you want for them. Do you want them to live in an unhappy family where he resents them and ignores them, or do you want them with you, a strong mother, who doesn't need that piece f worthless shit for aching and who will remind them they ARE wanted and loved.

Men like this make me want to rule the country for just one day....

Good luck to you, and for your pregnancy. Contact the CSA and work on your future, don't let him ruin it.

Oh my love. Please try to stay angry. You & your children deserve so much more.
He is either having some kind of mid life crisis or has always been a shit. By the time he sorts his shit out,you will realise you are so much better off without him.

You're not in love with him. It's a habit.

You seriously love someone who is such a wanker towards his own children?

YABU just for that alone because that makes you as big a wanker as he is.

Unless of course you just mean you think you do because you got used to having him around and now the habit is broken its a bit weird so your out of sorts but your fully intending on valuing yourself and your children and protecting them to the best of your ability from this wankers damaging behaviour in the near future,

Then yanbu and you are justifiably angry

You are right to be pissed off. My DH moved heaven and earth to see his DS after the split with his ex. Every week. For 9 years now, his life (and now mine and our DD's) is centered around DSS and our life with him.

Your ex is not being a good father. Getting too pissed to see his child, only having 3 hours a week to spare, not paying. All those things are bad and reasons for you to be angry.
Hopefully, in time, he'll buck up his ideas but he is not the man you thought he was and he has showed you that.

Use the time between now and your baby being born to get your support networks in place. Are your Mum and MIL able and willing to help out with the DC's?