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To not see my Mother tomorrow?

8 replies

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 09/03/2013 19:05

It was her birthday on Thursday, and I saw her then and took cake, flowers, balloon, pressies. Today we took her out for the afternoon and a gorgeous Afternoon Tea.

When I nipped to the loo, she gave DH a hard time saying she was going to be on her own tomorrow, and that we should spend it together, or should have gone out tomorrow instead.

I always make a huge effort with her, but even though she lives a mile away, she isn't involved in our lives, never invites us around and has never, ever had DS through choice...to be fair, she will if I ask, but I don't like to, so it's pretty rare anyway. It's not a great relationship, although I try.

I feel really terrible now though at the thought of her being unhappy...

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ladymariner · 09/03/2013 19:09

Out of interest what was the reason you couldn't see her tomorrow? Not criticising, just wondered. I actually think you've been very kind, but obviously your mum wanted to see you tomorrow instead. X

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts · 09/03/2013 19:11

Do you think she would have kicked up a fuss if your plans had been to see her tomorrow instead of Thursday? If so, then YANBU as she clearly couldn't have been pleased either way. If not, then maybe she does just want to see you for an extra day on Mother's Day in which case YAB-a tiny bit-U.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 09/03/2013 19:15

She would have been unhappy if I didn't see her Thursday.

Not seeing her tomorrow as DH and DS want to take me somewhere.

I'm prepared that I might be being U - I struggle to see the wood for the trees where she is concerned.

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ladymariner · 09/03/2013 19:30

Difficult situation, obviously your mum wants to see you as its mothers day but then you're a mum and your dh and ds want to spoil you.....ooh, no advice really but dont envy you. Here, have some Wine

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 09/03/2013 19:34

Thanks so much for your answers...it's a mess really - love the glass, much appreciated.

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CMOTDibbler · 09/03/2013 19:46

YANBU - you have done two days of lovely things this week, and tomorrow you get a little fuss from your son. I hate it when people use emotional blackmail, and thats what she is trying on.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 09/03/2013 20:19

Thank you CMOT...if it is emotional blackmail, then it's working!

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HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey · 09/03/2013 20:21

What CMOTD said, enjoy your day tomorrow.

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