Ok never posted on AIBU before and a little scared but here goes...
I got engaged in feb 2012 and we decided we would have our wedding in December. We both wanted a winter wedding around Christmas (although not christmas themed!) and liked the idea of a January honeymoon.
We told everyone and obviously in time we sent out invitations etc etc.
A colleague of mine and someone who I considered one of my best friends never seemed very excited or interested in wedding plans..... Halfway through the year she told me her boyfriend couldn't come as he had to work on the day of the wedding and wouldn't be able to get the weekend off for it.
Our wedding was in Devon but we live in London....
A week before the wedding she then TEXT me to say she wouldn't be coming (no apology though) and that she would be spending that weekend with her dad and "double booked" me!
She then text me straight after asking me not to call about it because she was busy and "best to stick to texts!"
I text her the next day saying I was upset and asked if she was definitely not coming and she replied "yeah".
And that's all I heard!
No card, no gift, no texts or calls after that.
Then mid January we received a wedding card from her in the post... I would have at least expected a nice paragraph like "sorry we didn't come but hope you had a lovely time" - NOTHING.
Then a week later she emailed me saying she is being "the adult" in contacting me first and that having a wedding in December around Christmas time is selfish and to EXPECT people to go to a wedding at that time of year is stupid and not thoughtful!
The thing is I'm not devastated that she didn't come.. I'm pissed off cos she text me about it, didn't even apologise and then emailed me saying we should never have had a December wedding and that it was all too awkward for her!
If she told me beforehand that it might have been awkward and explained why and said sorry I would have understood... Or at least tried to!
No one else had a problem coming to the wedding though.. Everyone we wanted to come was there and we had a brilliant day. So... In a way I'm really not bothered.
I just find her attitude and behaviour so weird! She didn't come to my hen weekend either - she said she couldn't afford it (even though we did a mixture of things all weekend and I said she could've just come out for a meal and she didn't bother)
I'm thinking she's just not that interested in being my friend?! And I'm not really that interested in being hers anymore either.