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AIBU?

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To want to leave irate message on neighbours car..?

24 replies

Hoofhearted69 · 08/03/2013 17:58

There is an older gentleman who lives at the end of our road who has a large shiny 4x4. He can often be found washing and polishing his beloved motor of a weekend. Is pathological about parking outside his house, will ask other people to move if he sees someone easing into a space outside his door if he is parked further down the road so he can move his car etc etc...does not have a dropped curb...has harassed people when they park outside his house ...

My issue is this. He loves to speed down our road at high speed and brake sharply before turning the corner, our road is only short, and there are many children who play out on the footpaths and front gardens. He has had several near misses when footballs have gone into the road and 2 that I know of have burst under his tyres.

It is only a matter of time before he runs over one of the kids who play down our road and as it is narrow, there will be nowhere for him to go but into a parked car or front garden. (Likely with bystander under his car)

AIBU to leave him a note asking him to reduce his speed and to take a bit more care, (sample draft turned out to be a bit aggressive, as he nearly hit one of the neighbours kids after cubs drop off last week, was dark and the boys were waiting to cross the road sticking heads out from behind car to check for traffic nearly ended in decapitation..!) (only very slight exaggeration!)

Would like to routinely let down his tyres, but maybe better to start small?

OP posts:
minibmw2010 · 08/03/2013 18:00

Leave a note that says: slow down you old fool. Short and sweet ...

Fanjounchained · 08/03/2013 18:05

Not at all BU. I have a similar situation in our street. A couple of young drivers who tear up the road like they're in fecking formula 1...I have a 3yr old and 5yr old who want to play outside but I'm a nervous wreck when they're in the front garden. Leave a note, perhaps referring to the incident the other night so you have a specific example to make him think. Hopefully he'll stop being such an ahole when he's in his car.

Kbear · 08/03/2013 18:05

"Please could you drive more slowly, especially down our road because if you injure or kill someone you will have to live with it forever... much obliged"

Kbear · 08/03/2013 18:06

missed a bit.... "you inconsiderate dickhead"....

INeverSaidThat · 08/03/2013 18:08

It is probably pointless Sad

How about speaking to the police?

ihatethecold · 08/03/2013 18:09

Agree with kbear.
don't beat around the bush!

dopeysheep · 08/03/2013 18:19

Whenever I see twats zooming round residential streets I always wish I could chuck a child sized dummy in front of their car and shit them up for life.
Obv it would be dangerous and I wouldn't actually do.it but God I'd love to.

GeneHuntsMistress · 08/03/2013 18:25

Could you speak with a PCSO and see what they advise?

cakebar · 08/03/2013 18:29

I would get a PCSO to have a word.

HeadfirstForHalos · 08/03/2013 18:29

I would speak with the PCSO and ask them to have a word. If he's an older stuck in his ways kind of man he will have respect for a police officer, even if he's pissed off about them being called.

Snoopingforsoup · 08/03/2013 18:33

I would actually speak to him face to face. As he's elderly, may be worth a chat with the local Police and give examples of him speeding etc. if he takes no notice. Some old people actually have their licence revoked for being dangerous.

FakePlasticLobsters · 08/03/2013 18:37

YANBU to want him to slow down, but it might be more effective to speak in person.

But if the children are regularly kicking balls out into the road and running right out after them, or crossing from behind parked cars, that's a big problem as well as they could just as easily run out in front of someone who isn't speeding but is just too close to stop.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 08/03/2013 18:46

I would also ask the local PCSO to have a word with him; they will do this.

Would not leave a note; such people do not respond to notes at all.

Also if he is so pathological with people parking in what he perceives as "his space" (if it is a public road then he does not have any right to stop people parking there) then I would definately let the PCSOs deal with him. Do not go up against such a person by yourself; he may well be pathological about his parking space perhaps because he has a depression and or anxiety based mental health problem.

hiddenhome · 08/03/2013 19:21

Definitely speak to the police. I reported a dad for driving dangerously outside school and they soon put him right Smile

Jengnr · 08/03/2013 21:49

I would park outside his house too. :)

LadyPessaryPam · 08/03/2013 21:54

minibmw2010 Grin

I would have direct and loud word with him if it was in my road.

maddening · 08/03/2013 22:34

Get an old banger for £50 taxed anx insured etc and park it outside his house with a note that it will be removed once he learns to drive appropriately.

But kbear's note sounds better imo or the pcso.

middleagedspread · 09/03/2013 11:13

We had a similar problem, my neighbour & I both approached the speeding demon
me "oh, I had to relearn how to drive when leaving London..It took me a while to slow down"
my neighbour "Why should I have to jump in the hedge when I see you coming"
She won!

Hoofhearted69 · 13/03/2013 10:39

Maddening, I like your idea best, but it will have to be the PCSO route I think, many thanks for all your replies. The kids who do play out in the street are all very good when it comes to crossing the road and do look out for the younger children, but would hate for them to have to see the result of an accident if someone did get skittled. ;)

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fluffyraggies · 13/03/2013 11:16

I hope this gets results OP.

I would speak to the PCSO too. I might consider leafleting everyone in the street with a polite notice to watch their speed as children play near the road.

putting an extra 100 or so through the door of the daft old bugger Wink

ChairmanWow · 13/03/2013 11:20

Speak to him face to face. I don't like the idea of getting PCSO to do it or leaving a note. You're his neighbour so why go to such lengths when a quiet word might do? If he doesn't listen then perhaps it's time to take it further.

minesapintofwine · 13/03/2013 11:30

scratch 'I prefer driving fast to the safety of your children' into the side of his car. With a carving knife.

Mabelface · 13/03/2013 11:46

I'd go down the PCSO route too, and I'm no shrinking violet.

ComposHat · 13/03/2013 11:48

I would leave a note like this:

Dear Inconsiderate wanker,

Whilst I always thought the Harley Davidson was the vehicle of choice in such circumstances, I appreciate that you are clearly having a mid-life crisis - buying such an outsized vehicle and tearing around the streets like a 19 year old does not proclaim to the world 'still got it baby' but rather makes you look really idiotic and proclaims to the world that you have a tiny flaccid cock.

However there is no need to take this inadequacy out on the rest of us, by tearing down the street like you were in the 'Fast & the Furious' and endangering the lives of the children you seem to hold in such casual contempt. Are you so desperate for the regular sex that you clearly lack that you are prepared to go to prison to get it?

My own hope is that before you kill or seriously injure a child that you practice of slamming on the brakes before turning the corner causes your absurd vehicle to topple over (news flash: 4X4s are not designed for high speed cornering and are renown for toppling over)

With love,

Hoofhearted69

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