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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to think it's cheeky when my friend eats my leftovers?

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HarlemHallow · 08/03/2013 14:20

Now I probably am being unreasonable, but I have noticed on a few occasions my friend will not order food and then will eat our leftovers.

Such as I ordered a dessert, too big and I couldn't eat it all. She had refused to order a dessert and then when I finished she took a spoon and started eating it herself.

Another time me and a friend had a sharing platter and again didn't finish it and she started helping herself to it.

I guess the food is just going to waste so she might as well eat it but I do think it's quite cheeky still.

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Moomoomie · 08/03/2013 17:19

" Joey does not share food "

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HarlemHallow · 08/03/2013 17:22

Stab her hand with your fork when she reaches for your plate?

Perhaps as soon as I get the dessert I could just lick the entire thing? or sneeze over it? But I'll have the fork idea as Plan B

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HildaOgden · 08/03/2013 17:27

Maybe she thinks free food = free calories?I have a friend like that,thinks that because she didn't actually order a dessert,it doesn't count as breaking her diet.

ZZZenAgain · 08/03/2013 17:29

Tell her you haven't finished with it, you're taking a rest and you'll finish it later, move it to the side furthest from her. You could also accidentally spill some coffee all over it etc

Or be upfront and just tell her, "no, yuk, don't eat my leftovers. If you fancy a dessert, just order one".

ElliesWellies · 08/03/2013 17:32

Do you habitually order food and not finish it? That seems wasteful - I am visualising you constantly leaving half your dinner or dessert or something. If it's only occasionally, where's the harm? And surely the leftovers are only a couple of mouthfuls?

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HarlemHallow · 08/03/2013 17:37

To all the people that said YABU - can I come out to dinner with you then?

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LaalRatty · 08/03/2013 17:38

It reminds me of a scene in the film Evolution where the guy reaches for the other guys bacon and says you gonna eat that? "Of course I'm gonna eat that. I ordered it didn't I?" :o

Scholes34 · 08/03/2013 17:44

Harlem - come out to dinner with me. I'd much rather food was eaten than wasted. Perhaps your friend feels the same. Either eat it all or don't order it if it's going to be too much.

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HarlemHallow · 08/03/2013 17:47

Either eat it all or don't order it if it's going to be too much

I always finish my main course, and yes sometimes I can't finish eating my dessert.

I'll eat 3/4 of it so I don't really see the problem tbh.

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Lovecat · 08/03/2013 17:48

Moomoomie you beat me to it, I was going to suggest going all Tribbiani on her arse :o

Greensleeves · 08/03/2013 18:00

Why is it better for the food to be wasted? I really don't get this one

quesadilla · 08/03/2013 18:03

YANBU. I have a friend who does this and it drives me to distraction. To be honest I don't think the financial thing is an excuse either. If you can 't afford to eat you either decline or eat before or you see if you can come to an arrangement. Scrounging food just pisses everyone else off.

HollyBerryBush · 08/03/2013 18:13

Does she come from a background where food was scare or rationed, or perhaps her parents were quite poor? Therefore she sees food waste as a crime, which it is.

I hate seeing food waste, but I would ask before polishing off your chips! honest!

willesden · 08/03/2013 18:17

I would strain my corset to finish what was on my plate in future, just to scupper her tightwad plans.

seriouscakeeater · 08/03/2013 18:35

I think this might my DD??!! (18) on her quest to be ever thin so she can climb through a letter box, she will never order any thing when we eat out, as she is never 'that' hungry, but when take away,meal, dinner arrives she just wants a 'tiny' bit of mine and DH meal. Which ends up in it being split 3 ways. I've started refusing but then feel guilty and give in, then the same happens for dessert!

I like the 'oh i'll eat that later' method for the OP.

ponyandpotatopie · 08/03/2013 19:22

Next time mash it all up with your fork
See if the tightwad eats it then

ImperialBlether · 08/03/2013 20:51

I'm with you OP. I can't bear anyone eating my food, whether I want it or not. If someone starts to take food off my plate, I stop eating.

Worse even than this is when someone just watches you eating, waiting for you to put your fork down so that they can take something from your plate. Makes me ill.

rainbow2000 · 08/03/2013 21:24

Its not the point its being wasteful she is not paying for it the op is,so its up to her to decide who eats it.She is just mean to much of a skinflint to buy her own.

Scholes34 · 08/03/2013 21:42

The friend isn't desperate for a pudding, hence she doesn't order one. However, if there's food that would otherwise be thrown away, what's the harm in eating it? If it bothers the OP that much, don't order what you can't eat.

HollyBerryBush · 08/03/2013 21:48

Sometimes MN is like Victorian Briatain, with an attack of the vapours.

Worse even than this is when someone just watches you eating, waiting for you to put your fork down so that they can take something from your plate. Makes me ill.

Can't say I'd be ill if someone watched me eat and took a chip from my plate, but I realise there area lot of -isms out there these days

ImperialBlether · 09/03/2013 00:17

It depends how you grew up, Holly. If you grew up very poor with brothers who would take food off your plate when you weren't looking, you might think differently.

PureQuintessence · 09/03/2013 00:34

You seriously need to work on your greed or stop overeating op.

I bet your friends are really pissed off that your belly is full before your mind, and they feel compelled to eat your waste!

WorraLiberty · 09/03/2013 00:38

Jeez do you worry about where your shit is going to end up when you flush the toilet?

No?

Then who cares what happens to the food you over ordered as long as you're finished with it.

GreenEggsAndNichts · 09/03/2013 00:38

Not sure I'd be upset about the eating as much as the hovering. I think if she were making a habit of this food-finishing, I'd feel as if she were sitting there, willing me to not finish my food so she could get her fill.

It's weird. YANBU.

If it were a one-off, I'd feel differently.

GreenEggsAndNichts · 09/03/2013 00:39

I should add, though, that I really dislike eating when other people aren't. I try to avoid it if possible. I probably wouldn't be ordering dessert if she weren't, to begin with.

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