in asking when you stopped being broody...?

[orangebuccaneer]

DS is 2 weeks old. DD is 2.7yrs.

I never wanted to be a mummy: I was never at all broody growing up. I was going to be a business woman and rule the world.... However one morning I woke up and felt broody. So incredibly broody. So DH and I had a baby and I became a SAHM :) And then we had another.

And now I'm sitting here with my beautiful little boy feeling so incredibly incredibly sad: it feels like time is slipping away through my fingers and he's already too grown up (despite the fact he can't yet support his own head properly..).

I'm already desperate to have another baby, but am scared that I'll just feel like this with #3: desperate to have another. And that my life will then turn into some reality show about a family of 23 children... That or I'll visit friends with new babies in years to come (most of our friends haven't started having children yet) and get upset/jealous...

Please can someone reassure me that I will, at some point, stop wanting another baby and be content with the ones I have??

yabu

Two weeks old, I'm jealous! I'll always be jealous though, but it doesn't make me feel broody. I think hopefully you'll find a time when you may feel a pang, but then look at your family and feel happy.

Lovely story btw Good luck.

Your son is so little! Your DD is not 3 yet. Does she seem quite big and capable next to your baby? She is still so little. Don't look too far ahead. Your hormones are still whizzing round. Right now you feel like Superwoman/Earth Mother. How does DH feel?

Most of your friends haven't started their families yet. By the time they do, you will have enjoyed time with your little ones, every stage, every new accomplishment. If when the time is right, you & DH decide to try for another baby, your love will expand, your purse won't Cherish your DCs now, live for the present.

Ds is 5 and a half, I've been broody since he was about a year old, its lapsed a bit since I started at uni but I'm still a bit broody, I'm sure once I qualify I'd hit full on broody status again.

I was like you I think. When DH and I got married we hadn't even discussed having children let alone how many. We have three DS's and I would have gone on to have at least another one or two were it my choice alone. However DH absolutely didn't want more than three, in fact, number 3 was a compromise as he wanted no more than two. With me the broodiness finally ended when the age gap was too big from my point of view from DS3 and a potential new baby. I didn't want to go back to the beginning again with a newborn.

So it took quite a while for the broodiness to go.

I still get pangs ... but they pass.

No chance of no 3 as had awful pregnancy 2nd time and wouldn't inflict that on myself or my family again.

I think what you are feeling is normal but you can wait a while.

I have no time for broodiness.. I have a ds who is 11 and a dd who is 7 and yes occasionally my mind wanders to ooo wouldn't it be nice to have another but then one of my siblings pops out another and I don't need to.. hurray!

I think I am finally over the broodiness. DC4 is still under 1 year old and I really do feel like I am 100% happy with stopping breeding now. After DC2 grew out if each stage if baby clothing I honestly cried. I do understand how you are feeling.

I have 4 and am broody! The youngest are 10 months and the baby stage seems to make me more broody. There is a big age gap between the twins and the older 2 (eight years) and I wasn't broody before I had the twins, had stopped about the time dd1 started school.

Having said that I was watching 16 kids & counting earlier and decided that 4 was plenty!

It's pretty common to feel broody just after having a baby. Don't make any decisions yet! Personally I get broodier with each child, I think it's because the baby stage seems shorter and shorter each time and it is easier each time as well as you get better at it.

We've got three which is what we always wanted and DS is only 6 months old but I get broody watching OBEM even though I know we're not planning on having any more, we're both in our 40s and having three healthy children at this age is lucky enough.

My now 15mo dc3 was unplanned and I was horrified when I found out I was pregnant with him although after the shock had worn off I was happy(ish).
Then when he was born and for about 3 months afterwards I wanted another, like you I was so sad that I wouldn't do it all again and could imagine myself having another. It soon wore off though, I am positive that I don't want any more children. I have longish age gaps between my three dc's and its very hard work!

When I delivered DD, my second, my.first words to DH were " thank god I never have to do this again". I stand by that 2.5 years on. No broodiness in sight.

You're giving me hope - thank you. I know I'm incredibly fortunate to have the family I do, and I'm so conscious of not wasting time thinking about the future...

I actually said to DH when DS was two days old that if I were Mother Nature I'd make it easy for women get pregnant during the first few weeks after birth - seems such a strong urge.

I think the point about each baby stage being easier is true: I'm enjoying #2 so much more since I'm not so stressed/nervous about everything, not so tired etc. Just coping better.

I doubt I'll be able to do anything about it for a while though: am EBF and it took until full weaning (at 12m) for DD for me to get my cycles back. So I probably have time yet...!