To think this is weird? Or am I just self obsessed?

[ceramicunicorn]

I was with my XP for 7 years, from the age of 15-22. We split up after he cheated on me with his now wife. I'm now happily married with a ds and another on the way and have no contact with him. We have mutual friends from school and uni and one of my friends told me his wife recently gave birth to their first child. All well and good and I'm happy for them.

Here's the weird bit though. They've given their daughter the same name as me. My name is in the top twenty girls names but was quite quirky back in the day. Am I just being a bit self obsessed thinking this is weird? Or should I feel a bit upset that a 7 year relationship with someobe with this bame didn't even cross their mind when naming their dd?

That is a bit weird.

I met DH when my bf at the time got friendly with a girl who lived with and was shagging DH and we sort of ended up swapping partners
Anyway, we are all happily married now (DH and I, them to each other). DH and I both quite liked the xbf's name, but it would have been very very weird to use it as even though we have no contact with them, we have a lot of mutual friends, so we didn't!
The girl hated us in the end so no chance of it happening the other way round

Yes, weird. Names of ex's are on the 'do not go there' list of baby names.

No ok, that's weird in that time frame!

Weird!

I'm actually friends with my DH's ex. I knew her before I knew him and she has one of my favourite girls name. I wouldn't even consider using it now!

I have noticed that a certain type of person (men and women) who are dicks in relationships tend to have no imagination. So the ex's using baby names picked in previous relationships isnt actually that surprising, after all it means less effort. Given that they are both dicks in the way they treated you, I am actually not at all surprised they did this!

There is a thread somewhere else on MN where the OP's H left her newly PG for his 6 months PG mistress and used the name that he knew the OP always wanted for a DC, for the middle name of his mistresses baby. That is not even in the top 20 twuntish things he has done, but it seems that for a certain type of person, nothing is off limits!

ExH's OW named her dog after my and XH's DS .

It is a bit weird. A friend of mine told me that he named his daughter after his ex because she was his soul mate. I don't know if his wife knew but they (he & wife) were together about 15 years and during that time he was definitely in touch, as friends, with the ex. Always thought it was a bit strange.

Really weird, yes. I would find it very difficult not to ask them what the hell they were thing about when they named her that. Don't, though!

That's definitely weird; how can they have not thought of you when the name came up in discussion?

My H's only 2 significant exes share the same name. But it's the name I always wanted as a middle name for any DDs as it's also my mum and best friend's name. Catherines everywhere .

Luckily I had a DS.

I'm going with not weird.

You are not part of their lives any more, they associate the name with their DD, not you.

I will tell you a true weird name story - friend was having affair with married man. Married man's wife had baby. Baby was given same name as OW, which was an unusual one. That was weird.

I too think it's weird.

In a similar vein to thingummybob I also have a friend who called her ds after a man she had a major (think bunny-boiler) crush on. They never went out, he was never interested in her.

I am pretty sure that her dh has no idea and the name is quite unusual although very fashionable about 20 to 30 years ago.