AIBU to wish DP wouldn't shave his head.

[1985Caz]

I know I probably am being BU, but still.

Me & DP have been together for 2y and friends for 6y before that. He has gorgeous thick curly hair. In the last 6m he's started shaving it to a grade 2. He keeps saying 'it's the last time' then when it grows back, he does it again. I find it really unattractive - he looks thuggy and has scars on his head. He's not balding so it's not because of that.

If I got a haircut he really hated I don't think I'd do it again if he said so. Not because I can't have my own opinion but I wouldn't live the idea of someone I loved and had sex with to find me less attractive.

Am I completely 100% BU?

thezebrawearspurple
I really hope that that response is a joke

But you would with hold sex until you got what you wanted

That comes under abusive behaviour.

Part joke, no I don't think anyone should withhold sex until someone does what they want, my point was that you're more likely to be turned on and responsive to sexual advances by someone who is attractive to you.

My DH has grown a beard that I don't like at all. I don't think it suits him, he looks disreputable and unkempt, which isn't like him at all. But it's his face so there's nothing I can do about it.

I don't think it's wrong to have a preference!

My OH usually has a shave head with a silly tuft at the front and although it is him, I am aware it has got him odd looks and I think it is judged IMO.

He would never admit that people can see it as thuggy, I wasnt sure if he just didnt realise or didn't want to, but he has recently kept it longer as he had a few interviews lined up

The important word here is wish - OP it is not unreasonable to wish he wouldn't shave his head (or even to state your personal preference) but it would be unreasonable to try and impose your wishes on him.

From teh contents of your OP I would say you are still in reasonable territory.

yanbu, it's insulting when your partner does something they know makes them unattractive to you. It shows they don't care

I totally disagree.

I have had my hair coloured, DH not keen, preferred it the way it is. I just told him it's a good job that I like it then!!

Does that above comment apply to someone putting on a bit of weight then?? Imagine....AIBU - I have out on 2 stone and my DH has told me he doesnt fancy me and I need to lose it.......A lot of leave the bastard comments would be said I imagine.