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To think if you work one day a week...

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StuffezLaBouche · 07/03/2013 18:02

You should arrange your appointments for any of the four working days you're not at home?
Willing to be told IABU here as I'm childless so obviously haven't experienced this.
An ex colleague of mine fell pregnant after a long time believing she couldn't. Took her maternity leave and returned to work (teaching) @ 0.2, which is one day a week. Her DH works from home and grandparents look after the toddler while she works. All fine.
Her child is now two and she is pregnant again and thrilled. However, she's arranged her last two medical appointments on the one day she works - which means a TA has had to cover her (not fun for the TA in the school in question.)
So genuinely, AIBU to think she should have arranged them on a different day?

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HildaOgden · 07/03/2013 21:36

She's using the system to her advantage.

Plenty of people do it,in one way or another.

It's also the main reason some employers are reluctant to employ women of child-bearing age.

Nothing you can do about it,she is protected by employment law.Take comfort that most people don't take the piss like that (assuming she is ,and that the only possible maternity care available to her doesnt't just happen to occur on the only day she is in paid employment)

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MortifiedAdams · 07/03/2013 21:40

My MW was.only ever at the docs between 2-4pm on a tuesday. Thats it. I usually work a tuesday late (2.30-11pm) so would always have to be late that day.

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MrsLouisTheroux · 07/03/2013 21:40

Hilda If she's seeing the midwife at her GP surgery I agree with everything you've just said for the reasons I've already posted.
If she is under some sort of specialist hospital care it's possibly more complicated.

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DontmindifIdo · 07/03/2013 21:41

I looked into this as i'm pregnant and work parttime, your employer has a right to ask you to try to move your appointments ot a non-work day. You get the time off if you can't move it, but you can't (as another part time worker in our office did and got huffy when HR had words) deliberately pick to do it on the days you work on the grounds you already have childcare for existing DCs set up when you have an option of appointments on other days you don't work.

Consultant appointments are different, it's hard to get those on other days. And she might find she calls up and can't change them, but her employer has a right to ask her to try to. they also can ask for written evidence of all appointments after her first booking in one.

BTW - I've had midwifery care under two different areas, in both, there was at least some flexibility in the dates/times. I can see in some areas you are stuck to one day a week, but that doesn't seem to be the norm.

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mamapants · 07/03/2013 21:41

She's gone to 2 appt, hardly crime of the century.

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MrsLouisTheroux · 07/03/2013 21:42

Mortified Did you not think to ask where she was the rest of the week and arrange to see her there?

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MerylStrop · 07/03/2013 22:29

Routine early pg midwifery appts are NOT particularly time-sensitive.

The community midwives in our area can book their own appointments on the system shared by the GP practices, so they can book you for any other surgery available. You ring them up explain the problem and they'd help you find a solution. No biggie. Honest.

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pigletpower · 08/03/2013 00:06

As a teacher I am gobsmacked at her being able to secure a 0.2 post! What a waste of time.How can she possibly maintain a positive relationship with her pupils seeing them only one day a week?

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breatheslowly · 08/03/2013 00:11

In secondary teaching there are many subjects where a teacher would see a class once a week.

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IneedAsockamnesty · 08/03/2013 00:43

I have a staff member who is currently pregnant she works 2 days a week almost all her appointments fall on those days, she is unable to change her working days due to an older child with a disability and his care.

Everybody likes her she works hard and she's a asset to my team.

I know she's not telling porkies about the days her midwife works and the consultant she sees because I had the same midwife and consultant last year,some times the midwife will see her at home on Sundays but there is nothing else she can do about the other appointments.

Tbh yabu but only a bit because it is frustrating but its only 40 weeks

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MrsLouisTheroux · 08/03/2013 07:12

As a teacher I am gobsmacked at her being able to secure a 0.2 post! What a waste of time.How can she possibly maintain a positive relationship with her pupils seeing them only one day a week?
She's obviously not the main teacher! Covering PPA, making up another teacher's 0.8 timetable? I see some classes (11-16) for one hour a week!

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