To be furious with dh trying to force me to be honest with my dm?

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We had ds1?s first parents? evening at his new school this afternoon. I have been anxious about how well he has settled in (Y1 ? we have moved) and was left feeling a little deflated as the teacher was a bit vague. Not in front of ds, I told dh I felt it had been ?the usual bollocks?. He didn?t agree but we had no time to discuss it as I had to take ds to his drama class.
My mum is staying with us as dh (sahd) is having an MS relapse. When I got in and had put ds to bed, my dm asked me how the parents? evening had gone and I said, ?fine thanks.? Dh immediately pipes up, ?why are you lying? That?s not what you said to me!? I am livid. My dm was embarrassed, as was I. I would probably have told her my views later but I have been rushing around since 5am (like every other day), it was 8pm, I?m tired, I want time to think over what was said and discuss it with the twat himself before having to explain it all to someone else ? I just haven?t the energy. Why can?t he just respect that?
He used to do this a lot (pull me up on euphemisms/white lies in front of our families) but I have made my views clear and it?s less often now, but just as annoying when he does. We are all having a tough time, but it?s no excuse. My dm is here to help and he has made her feel awkward ? I can?t bear to look at him.
He has just come in the kitchen (dm in sitting room) and still won?t apologise. Apparently, it is his business as she was asking both of us. Fine, but he apparently did feel the parents' evening went fine, so where was the issue?
AIBU?

Don't think he did anything wrong. She's family, can't you all talk honestly together?

Chill out, have a glass of wine. RELAX a bit. :)

Lying is such a strong word. If for nothing else, for that he is being unreasonable and a bit of a twat. I could have been expressed in SO many different ways.

He was a bit OTT and after a long and exhausting day I can totally see why you reacted like you did. He should have apologised when he saw how upset you were. But I really can think of much worse and I don't agree with comments about trying to humiliate you.

My OH pulls me up on white lies too. He's a bit pedantic. He's also really kind and supportive so I can live with that. I just tell him to cool it when he picks too much and he generally does. Perhaps a talk about appropriateness is in order.

Sympathies for what you are all going through. It must be extremely stressful and exhausting.

YANBU. Is your DH happy for you to treat him the same way?
Don't you and your DH have any secrets? Or does he just blurt out what you have told him in private, in front of other people whenever he sees fit?

YANBU.

Do you have to tell your Mum everything about everything, then?

Although this is obviously as much about how he has embarrassed your Mum who has come to help.