To LTB?...SAHM with alcoholic husband with depression

[DaisyDoodle]

I'm considering leaving my husbandrecovering from PND. My DD is 2. My Irish husband has always been a heavy drinker and prone to negative moods. His father died last September. Since then the drinking has become worse. He tried to commit suicide in November after being finally diagnosed with depression. Horrendous.
Since then a few things have brightened up, finances, work etc. His antidepressants have made a big improvement. He's on the waiting list for CBT therapy, which I've found hugely beneficial.
He's been out on massive benders 4 times in the past week. Just vanished, phone straight to voicemail, no texts. I'm left at home with our baby worried sick. Has he jumped off a bridge? Has he passed out in a gutter?
The thing is it's happened so many times after the past few years, I'm beginning to stop caring.
It uses all my strength to care for my DD and hold it together for myself.
I understand how desperately isolating depression is.
I don't know how to help him to help himself.
This can't go on. I feel so lonely.
I was supposed to go to the cinema with my sister tonight but had to cancel as he's a no show. I've tried every tactic reasoning, arguing, disappointment etc. I can't help him. He has to do it himself.
What do I do?

I think you already know its time to put you and your DD first.

Oh Op what a terrible situation you are in sending you Im sure there will be some one along who can give better advice than me. Looks like things need to change big time for you and babba x
You will gets lots of 'leave the bastard' on here so be prepared. Personally i would go, just to get some respite and think about yours and babys future. You cant save some one who is determined to self distruct x
good luck hun xx

Why dont you post in relationships x

Agree with pollydon. hugs

I think you know what you need to do, but that doesn't make it any easier for you :(

Agree with pollydon you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved. Time to prioritise you and DD.

I am so sorry you're going through this. I agree with pps, you have to prioritise you and your DD. I grew up in a similar situation, and the less your child is exposed to that kind of behaviour and relationship, the better.

He has to want to change.

What an awful situation op . Agree with other posters though, you need to put yourself and your dd first. Relationships might be a better place to get advice on this from others who have dealt with similar situations. Good luck.