To wonder when my wishes will take precedence on Mother's Day?

[dizzy77]

DS isn't yet two so I can appreciate this may be a while yet. But juggling seeing my mum, spending time with DH's mum is leading me to wonder when (if ever) a plan will be made that revolves around me.

I appreciate how lucky we are to have both mothers, good relationships with them and they both live close enough for us to see both on the same day. This isn't so much a whinge as a wonder about when (beyond card and there better be some chocolates) I might get to relax and enjoy it.

We won't be doing anything apart from a card and probably a small present from DH via the kids. My mum has passed and mil is 250 miles away. We have all sons, and there are no other women or mothers in our (very small) wider family. I can't think of anything I'd like to do that we wouldn't do anyway (aside from a day spa, not ideal for 3 kids in tow!). What would you all actually choose to do?

I have so far had 2 packages and cards in the post from my DDs (20 and 25) who at at uni/moved out, DS (23) usually does flowers (fingers crossed DDs have reminded him 100 times :D)
Heard DD (15) booking a restaurant last night. I was gobsmacked, I think my older DDs may have trained her well!
I will visit my mother for coffee in the morning with some flowers.

...Don't worry this is after many years of scooting children to DM's house or (a long time ago ex's DM). Oh and the sort of cute nightmare time my DC came into my room at 5am and told me DS(10) had tried to make me tea but spilled it down the stairs and DD(7) had taken the dog for a walk but not taken a poo bag so we needed to go and pick up the poo as a man had told her off and DD(2) had had 'an accident' and needed changing.
Couldn't decide if I was furious they had gone out the house without asking, with the naughty dog which used to always run away, carried a boiling hot drink upstairs probably half running knowing DS and that DD(15) was still fast asleep OR that it was bloody cute how much effort they'd attempted to make.

lottie that is exactly my thoughts on Mother's day. My mom gets a card and a phone call. My mil gets to come over for a meal... Such fun! My fil can be overbearing sometimes... Well, often.

It just doesn't feel like I get made a fuss of.

i think we went to have lunch with mil before we had children. after that I said h had to put some effort into appreciating the mother of his children for at least one day of the year. if I had not been second or third in the pecking order after his birth family, when there were decisions to be made, maybe, just maybe, I would not have been so demanding.

I'd love to have mother's day with just me, dh and our kids. Dh insists on spending it with his mum (my folks have been gone for years ). I have kind of resigned myself that I'll need to wait until kids are older for it just to be us 4 but I do feel I'm missing out. I feel bad though for wanting to deprive mil, I do love her but still.

Dh is overseas working and will miss it for the second year in a row. But I won't be travelling to see DM or MIL as they are too far away (will see them next weekend instead), although I may go to see my DGran (I went last week but she was sleeping - she's 93 and aged a lot in the past 18 months).

But it was never a big deal growing up, and still isn't in our family life.

(Now if I could get a full day to myself once DH is home, I will be VERY happy!!)

Book a mini break for the 3 of you next year :) as your mothers day treat - somewhere by the beach as your dc will love it and you can relax :)

This Mother's Day my dcs will be at their dad's as it's his weekend and I will be working 9-7

I've had loads of people ask me if I'm upset about it but why would I be? I know my dcs love me, I don't need a special day where they have to buy me a card, I appreciate their random acts of kindness so much more

Sorry but it's not gonna happen!
I'm mid 40's and have a DD 15 and it's never revolved around me.
Always around our DM, the way it should be.

This year DH is taking the dc's to see his mum on saturday, and we're visiting my mum on Monday. Sunday is going to be a family day. My mum has made it clear as long as she gets a card she'll be happy, she thinks it's important I get MY mothers day now. MIL may well be a little miffed, but she's got 3 other DC's who she'll probably see, and she also has to understand that I want my mother day now, she's had many many years of or bring all about her!