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to think this is weird wedding wording?

68 replies

moogy1a · 06/03/2013 14:56

A new variation on the children at weddings scenario.
Just received an invitaion which says " due to venue capacity we are only able to invite a small number of childrenthese have been randomy selectedand it is not meant to cause much offence.
"randomly selected"?!! Why not selcted in terms of closeness to family/ parents who can't get childcare for the day/ anything other than random?
Did b&g pick names out of the hat?

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ChaoticisasChaoticdoes · 06/03/2013 20:13

Every time these threads are posted there are always posters who say you should get a cheaper venue, eg village hall.

We don't have a village hall but even if I booked a price equivalent I would then have to get married in the register office. Our register office has two ceremony rooms, one holds up to 10 guest, the second up to 50 guests. That in itself would limit the number of people I could invite more effectively than booking a hotel wedding/other posh venue.

MrsLouisTheroux · 06/03/2013 20:55

randomly selected?! Hmm

Pipachi · 06/03/2013 21:10

It is not meant to cause much offence? Hmm

WhereYouLeftIt · 06/03/2013 21:24

I would think that the phrase "these have been randomly selected" is the most diplomatic euphemism they could find to express "I don't care that you're [e.g. my sister] I'm not having your obnoxious brats pissing the rest of my guests off, and don't try complaining about our cousin's children being invited they are a pleasure to be around".

DioneTheDiabolist · 06/03/2013 21:27

I think the wording is hilarious, but I think it's sad that those getting married have to make excuses. It's not about being bridezillish, it's about them being allowed to invite whoever they want to the party that they are throwing and paying for. If parents don't want to go because their DCs aren't invited, they can turn down the invitation.

HamAlive · 06/03/2013 21:33

Why was a dancing child a precocious brat, Puff ? Must've been a tiny dance floor if there was no room for anyone else.

Snowme perhaps some people like those things? There might not be romance in them for you but there might be for others.

OP that is very odd wording. I wonder what their selection criteria were?

PurpleStorm · 06/03/2013 22:09

Very odd wording. I agree with everyone who thinks that the selection process wasn't random at all!

BanjoPlayingTiger · 06/03/2013 22:14

Most bizarre wording, but they most definitely are trying to exclude certain kids IMO. Clearly yours make the cut moogy

Panzee · 06/03/2013 22:32

People can't do right for doing wrong.

simplesusan · 06/03/2013 23:20

I am intrigued by the Lion King idea.
Can someone please link to that thread?

Personally I am liking the idea of going to see a show rather than attending a wedding, especially if it is all expenses paid. Sounds a great idea!

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moogy1a · 07/03/2013 07:22

I agree that b&g should invite who they want and I appreciate there are limits on numbers but I think putting that only close family / bridesmaids children etc. are invited wouldn't have caused "much offence"

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GreenLeafTea · 07/03/2013 07:32

Are either the bride or groom in middle management by any chance? They seem the types that enjoy putting long words into sentences but have no idea what they mean. They still think it sounds really professional though.

ChaoticisasChaoticdoes · 07/03/2013 09:22

Lion King wedding

Iaintdunnuffink · 07/03/2013 09:52

I would have to ask the how they operated the random selection? Names on bits of paper? Computer program? Grin

I can only presume they don't want to invite children who are closer up the family tree but still have children of a close friend.

I don't have a problem with only selected children being invited but that is funny wording.

BeCool · 07/03/2013 10:05

is this an example of when stupid people try to be clever!!!

Randomly selected children?? WTF? How? Why? Why? Why?
Didn't mean to cause MUCH offence - gwaff!!!! Foot in mouth!

Why not simply say "we are only able to invite a small number of children. Please don't be offended if yours aren't invited" and leave it at that.

I'm one of the people who don't believe in ageist weddings anyway - it's a family celebration - I'd invite all ages!

atthewelles · 07/03/2013 10:22

I think its a great idea and more b&gs should copy it. Maybe, when their children have failed to be 'randomly selected' for 4 or 5 weddings in a row, the penny might drop with some of the inconsiderate parents out there who currently seem to be oblivious to how annoying and disruptive their little brats are.

simplesusan · 07/03/2013 21:48

I have looked at the Lion King thread and it is hilarious. Thanks for that.

chateauferret · 09/03/2013 14:10

I'd be telling them their wedding invite had been randomly selected for perpendicular rectal insertion, myself.

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