not so much of aibu more what would you do..

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if you had been reading your child fb page and read an awful story about someone being bullied by someone you know?

I already think I should call the school and tell them what is going on - I wouldn't want my own child to know I had done so though - my child is not involved but he knows all parties.

Would you?

I don't know, but I'd want to. I don't think I could do nothing about it.
Do you know the bullies family well? Can you call the school without them letting on it was you who told?

Ask the school if you can speak to them in confidence.

Mostly you'll find they just want what's best for the child and will understand your need for confidentiality, if you feel your child wouldn't want you involved.

If it's on FB, the school won't have to say who gave them the heads up.

I would contact the school. Cyber bullying is taken seriously and of course it would remain confidential.

How do you know them? Is it as bad as you think?

You are in a bit if a catch 22 situation OP.

How bad is the "bullying"?

I tend to think that your son will know it was you. Does your son know you are on his facebook and reading these things?

If so, I'd actually speak to my son first.

Of course..

Bullying is like domestic abuse... If you don't tell it gets worse. Stamp on it hard, early on, don't cover up or excuse and sort it out.

If its on Facebook that makes it public property anyway.

How was it on your sons facebook?

was your son suppporting him or was he part of it?

or did it just appear on there between others?

did this boy tell your son he was being bullied?

Im not up on these things but was it just on his newsfeed thing? or was it actually on his facebook, if so, there must have been some sort of interaction between them.

I'd say something

I always read both my DCs fb pages and texts and of course they both know that I do and why I do.

This was a mesage on his newsfeed started by one of his friends, my son hasn't commented on the thread at all. It was pretty nasty and very clear what was going on. And, judging by the replies, everyone else knew it was going on too! These are yr8 children.

I have decided I am going to call the school in the morning to voice my concerns because if it were my son being bullied (or doing the bullying) I would be pretty upset if I found out an adult knew and did nothing.