To want to throttle DH for putting every stich of DDs school uniform in the wash at 11pm?

[designerbaby]

So now I have to bloody wait up for it to finish, and then hang it dry, hope it's arsing dry by 6am, which is when I'll have to get up and iron the fucking box pleats in her tunic. I could cry. And yet murder him while weeping.

And he's leaving to catch a flight at 5am, so has buggered off to bed.

I feel murderous, I really do...

db
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DB, YANBU.

Does your DH ever get kids ready for school etc?

Oh and don't worry about the Ironing Parents, please.

DH taught dd to iron the pleats into her kilt.

So now, either he does it or she does it.

I do not iron pleats.

I wash all uniform, PE kit, footie kit etc on Friday evening. If it is not in the washing basket, I do not wash it.

So, if you have no uniform at 9pm on a Sunday-not my fault.

YANBU. I woulda killed him!

I know salt in the wound and all that but I love my mam. I have 5 sets of uniform for DD my mam gets it on Friday and it all comes back on Sunday night washed and ironed

I'm lucky lucky lucky!

My Dh is great around the house. Washing though he drives me mad. Everything no matter what material or colour all goes on the same programme and then it all goes in the drier. He has ruined various items of clothing over the years. This week alone he dyed the school blouses pink. Thank God for bleach.

I think done if you have over complicated laundry. If blues have to be washed together or towels then its hi surprise that mistakes are made.

E have one double wash basket, one side lights, one side darks. The only thing that needs doing as to pick a side and take one load out of it. The correct setting is highlighted with a big marker pen (because the washing machine is in a dark corner and its ready to forget to check).

No, I should imagine that this latest fuck up was to reinforce his crapness & therefore how important it is that he does nothing around the house

Especially when there are no consequences for him.

Has anyone yet said "bless him,he was obviously trying to help"??!!

Sorry, but how can a man be rubbish at it??

Sort clothes, put in machine & on appropriate was cycle-which a lot of women "work out" by reading care labels & washing machine manuals.

It's not programmed into us because we are female FFS!

When DH and I started living together it was in my flat. Brand new conversion that was my absolute pride and joy and I had lived there on my own for around 18 months. He had been living in a crappy rented room.

Not long after he had moved in, we had this conversation:

DH: Have I got any clean shirts?
Me: I don't know darling. Have you?

That did the trick.

What is it about men and washing machines! DH doesn't touch the washing unless asked. He would wear his last pair of socks and then come to me amazed that he doesn't have anything clean to wear. He told me once he's rubbish at it because it was all done for him when he was at school. It perplexes me, because he does everything else, just not laundry.

He did it deliberately so you'll never ask him to help again.

And fuck the 'uber mummies' whatever the hell they are. Not worth your time or attention, is what they are.

Love that BIWI! Why the hell didn't I do the same all those years ago...

And this is why I've banned my dh from doing laundry. Not because he cant figure it out (though he had shrink a number of woollen items in the past) but because I have an ordered system in' place so I never end up with so much wet washing I cant dry it and we usually always have the clothes we need. He just washes all his stuff and then throws another wash on when I point out ds has no clean nappies left without thinking of how we're going to dry anything! (and we have no room for a tumble drier and couldn't afford to run it if we did)

So I feel your pain OP. Did you get it done in time?

I should also say that now, in this household, DH takes responsibility for the washing.

Christ, YANBU. Was he anything like my DH, all bewilderment that his attempt to "help" has been so ungraciously received? Quietly puzzled because the fact that he actually Did Something trumps all else? And you're the arse?

I got home on Saturday, with very little time and many preoccupations, to find that my DH had decided this was the very day to defrost the freezer. By that I mean, remove all the food and unplug the freezer in a "spare 10 minutes" he had before burying himself back in his work (he works at home almost constantly). So that was nice.

my dad drove my mum potty doing the laundry so she resorted to stripping us in front of the machine on Friday & turning it on. There were 4 of us so plenty of uniforms & extras to wash.

My ds is 4 & loves washing machines particularly the spin cycle. He will happily help to load the machine, put the detergent in & select the correct. wash programme. If a 4yr old can do it, I cant understand why a grown man cant.

my dad drove my mum potty doing the laundry so she resorted to stripping us in front of the machine on Friday & turning it on. There were 4 of us so plenty of uniforms & extras to wash.

My ds is 4 & loves washing machines particularly the spin cycle. He will happily help to load the machine, put the detergent in & select the correct. wash programme. If a 4yr old can do it, I do not understand why a grown man cant.

My DCs aged 12.5 and 9 can do the washing, it's one of their chores (when I remember to ask them to do it). DP is also very good at doing laundry, and is even able to wield an iron.

It's not difficult and I firmly believe any bloke who trots out the "it's difficult" line is a secret believer that it's all "wimmins work" and thus has nothing to do with them!

Why on earth did you let him go off to bed leaving you to pick up the slack?

My DH makes silly mistakes sometimes but I refuse to pick up the slack and if he makes the mistake, he has to sort it out. If he'd have done what your DH has done my attitude would be 'oh dear, well if you could make sure it's all ready and ironed for the morning then. DD will need her skirt, jumper and a shirt. I'm off to bed, night!'

My dh does exactly the same thing. I could write a book on him! He will often do exactly the same for you same scenario always late at night always the longest possible wash and as he has early starts I stay up. He will wash things the boys have worn once without even looking on them and I consider clean sometimes I think just to give me work. He once washed white polo shirts with q load of coloureds and was genuinely baffled as to why I was annoyed. He washes work clothes that need to be worn the next day. He washes random things like oven gloves always always done late at night!

The only problem with dp doing the washing is he puts whites in with coloureds. I just wash whites on a Friday now as he only ever does washing on weekends.

If he washes too much and causes a problem with drying he is told to go to the launderette as our dryer is broken

I wouldnt have gone to bed Murphy because what if dh hadn't done it and it would need to be sorted in the morning!

Can I just say, in response to all the 'why are men so useless/clueless about laundry', that my DH does the laundry and ironing in our house. I will put the washing on and sort it out sometimes but I detest ironing and DH needs his shirts ironed so he does it all.

Bit of a sweeping generalisation to say that all men are rubbish at it...

OP - I'd definitely have wanted to have made your DH stay up and deal with it but it strikes me that you are a pretty kind person who cared more that he had to get up for the flight. Just don't stand for it again!

Chocoholic, if my DH was disrespectful enough not to sort a problem he'd caused, it would have a knock on effect for him, as I'd stop cooking for him, doing his laundry and various other things, and I would also probably put his work clothes in the washer the next night very late so they would be wet the following morning.