to think my friend should ask how I am??

[RollingTheChanceDice]

A friend of mine is a sahm and her DD is currently 8 months.

I don't get to see her that often, I'm working during the week and at the weekends we usually spend it with our families etc.

When I do see her I always ask about DD - Christening plans, sleeping routine, is she doing this yet and then I always ask about her too.

All general questions that friends would ask.

She never once asks me anything about me. I don't expect a whole hour long conversation revolving around me and my life. But in those 8 months, I was having problems with my partner which she knew about - we have broken up now and I doubt she even knows that, I left my job and was unemployed for a while and shes never asked if I have a new job yet.

If she just said - so whats going on with you? I'd be happy with that.

It never bothered me to begin with when she was a new mum but now I'm just finding it rude.

aibu??

YANBU.

I have a friend a bit like that. I text her and say, 'How are you? How is DH? Etc'. And I get 'Great, thanks.' And that's it.
Annoying

YANBU dh had a friend like that. He was all take and no give. A few years ago he txt dh to ask if he could come round. Dh txt back to let him know that I was really unwell with a nasty virus, possibly swine flu, as was ds2. Dh told him he was quite worried. Friend txt saying no probs, will come another day. He never even mentioned ds & I.

They are friends no more!

Drains and Radiators, Your friend sounds like a drain and you a radiator, i always ask in return, its manners.

But, Greg, surely you ask because you want to know?

I have a friend like this who will come into the house and talk and talk and talk. It wouldn't matter what was going on in my life, she would never ever ask. If I tell her, it's because I interrupt her to tell her. The next time I see her she won't refer to it again.

And yet I like her and I don't know why.

YANBU i have a friend like that! Even if shes not particularly interested its polite isnt it

I have a friend like this - never hear from her, I never see her unless I invite her somewhere.

Always ask how she is, never get asked in return.

Last time I saw her I said we were probably moving to the US for a while and she said "please don't, I'll be so sad if you leave"

I was quietly thinking to myself - "I'd probably still see you the same amount even if I carried on living in the UK"

YANBU. How long have you known her? Has she always been like that or is it just since she had the baby?

Dead wood imo. I can't be done with it now old fart.

YANBU.

Oh god, I have one of these. We've both suffered with depression over the years. i've listened to lots of heartache, not sure whether she's ever twigged i'm not in that much of a bonnier frame of mind than her. sometimes i have games trying to see how long i can go in a phone conversation with being the one asking all the questions - i always end up giving in, can't bear the silence! i'm not the world's most hands-on friend i know. the weird thing is i know she's the life and soul elsewhere, i just don't seem to get any of that.

I'm currently playing chicken, waiting to see if she ever gets in touch again if i don't: what a ridiculous state of affairs! i'm by no means the most attentive of friends but I just get so angry that i don't think she even knows what job i'm doing at the moment. maybe all these years i thought i was being a good friend, staying in touch with someone i had nothing in contact with, and perhaps she was feeling the same way... guess we have the answer now!

there's a lot of random grammar in my post