Not invited to a pub night out.

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I have two very best friends and we are all seperated from our husbands. I always have a Sat night child free which they know. Tonight I see on FB they have checked in to various pubs and clearly I knew nothing about this. They live very close to each other and I am a15 min bus away from them. I just feel a bit left out from their plans and not sure why I wasn't included. We regularly do have nights out together.
I did comment on their FB status with a sad face (petty i know)and they then replied 'we miss u!' WTF! You didn't invite me....
Then a comment ' we going out next week if u want to come...'
AIBU to be in a bit of a strop about this? But would appreciate another perspective.

Ooops been back doored Nope I would feel left out too! Get some new friends.

maybe it was spur of the moment, or they thought you were doing something else.. it is a bit mean of them though.. but dont let it spoil the friendship, just say "oi, where was my bloody invite?"

It may have been very last minute but I would be hurt as well, maybe accept the invitation but add you were free this evening?

Can understand why you are upset but why does one of them have to invite you, if you're wanting to go out why not contact them and invite them out?
I hate 3s though.

Why can't they go out if they want to? I might feel a pang of jealousy but wouldn't post a :-( that's a bit childish isn't it? Just go with them next week if you want to. Sometimes in groups its all of you sometimes its just some!

Tbh this drives me mad. Why do people feel the need to be invited everywhere? I hate all this where's my invite business. Last week on my way back from shopping I bumped into my friend so we nipped into the cafe for a quick brew. Jesus the fuss it caused... I'm one friend down on FB due to my inconsideration.

I know Kim. I figured a sad face was better than 'where was my effing invite!' Passive aggressive possibly!

Laal Ratty it's not about being invited everywhere. But we always go out together. Was just wondering why not this time?

Ask them why they didn't invite you... Simple.

Just leave it and pretend you were joking tbh. Maybe its our hormones. I can't imagine dh and his friends being troubled by this. Maybe I'm just not a jealous person. Maybe there's something wrong with me? :o

Nothing worse than needy friends. Be careful or they'll be arranging meet ups without you on purpose and swearing each other to secrecy... ooh maybe they are already OP?

Seriously just leave it. Say nowt.

Hee hee Laal....weird name by the way. It is possibly just a 'sensitive' time of the month! Paranoia ruling! I will breathe and move on....with a grumpy face!

Thats the spirit! If they are being fuckers and purposely excluding you then pretend you ain't arsed. Friends don't do that. But sometimes you just wanna do stuff at the spur of the moment and not have to fb everyone. Don't worry about it, go next week, (don't guilt trip them though) and just have a laugh.

I've been in a 3 group before and someone always gets left out. It used to bother me but after a while I just thought - fuck it.

Started going out more with other friends and when they fell out, suddenly I was their best friend again.

It was probably spur of the moment, perhaps just say I felt a bit left out. I wouldn't have commented on their status though.

Thanks Laal. Shall we go out next week...??and purposely exclude people...jokes! I figure it prob was a spur of the moment thing for them and I just being a needy twat tonight...:))

Please don't be that friend that demands an invite everywhere. Everyone secretly hates that friend, and going out with them starts to become an obligation.

Why don't you instigate the plans? Can't be left out of your own plans!