To think there must be somthing i can do

[Domjolly]

Rang my sister last night to find out if she gotton the school she wanted for my nephew her response was i dont care

my sister has so many issues and i worried about her and the kids

She has recently come put as gay not a shock to me but her bothers have cut her off the girl she was seeing has dumped her and is going back to her boyfriend who lives in the same house (dont ask)

Also my nephews incressing attention seeking behaviour is of grate concern he has ADHD but we all surspect its more likey his bevaiour is down to my sisiter poor pareting and lack of responce
she dosnt play with at all and palms him off almost everyweekend and hoilday

If she can

She tells my nephew that she will put him in care or that she is sending him away to his dads when he is not behaveing also one thing that really shocked me at our sons birthday oh pulled her up he was so socked he said she not saving for uni rather for a defence lawyer as hes bound to need one

Also she tells him that hes eveil quite a lot

Just some of the poor choices my sister has made she inherited 80k , a flat and a bmw she then put her children into a private school fab we all thought sadly she has pissed the whole 80k up the wall on hoildays paying for 12 of her mates to go to cancoon,2 trips disney land,concerts paying for someone she was having affair withs wedding SO SHE COULD NOT KEEP UP The fees so had to remove the children this is all with in 18months ffs

Our main concern is that any time is she having issues with in her relationships her parting alters so much she gose down to anout 20% and to be fair shes only running on about 55% at the best of times most people have low ebbs but this cant effect your pareting

She locks herself in her room only feeds the kids takeaways and most likey they will be late goung and being picked up from school (this is not all the time just when she is feeling down but still)

Also she is unable to hold down her job as she keeps getting sacked she had sex with serval people in the office at one job and at another she ask the manager to step out side (yes to fight) when she was pulled up for being late

Her last job she wasnt keep on after the trial and was told she didnt fit in no doubt her attatuide
My nephew has been to five schools incuding the private one so far she just really seems like she has given up

If i go to hard on her she might shut me out then i wont be ale to keep a eye on my nephew at all or do you think i might suggest she go and see her Gp

Someone from her estate has already call ss on her and no futher action was taken (sadly)

Oh thinks she needs some anti depressants

Sorry for the spelling

She also dosent belive he ds has ADHD nor do i for what its worth i belive its down to her poor parenting she thinks he was born evil

She was beaten so badly 6 years ago infront of her kids she is colourblind in one eye this was by her youngest father

I have offered to take my nephew off her hands but oh say of he stays he wont be going back

He came he a few weeks ago poor thing he was crying when we put him to bed and said in a tiney voice when my oh went up "is my mum coming back " hes so scared she is ginna leave him some were and not come back he was crying not very normal for a 10 year old

She sounds very much in need of help and support.
Could you call Social Services and tell them everything, a neighbour probably doesn't have as much knowledge of the situation as you do.

Sorry, I'm finding it hard to understand all of your post but does your sister have just the one child? Or are there others, you mentioned children at one point. I totally understand why you are worried about your DNephew and I will point out here that ADHD is brought out by lack of attention in the early years, so it is very likely that this is an issue for him. How old is he now? Is he about to start secondary?

Could you offer to be a sort of secondary guardian for him, someone you can liaise with school and be made aware of any problems? I've come across this type of arrangement with students at my school.

I think oh is right, although persuading her she needs to go to the docs will be difficult.
Just try to be there for your sister and especially for her children. They need love and support and if they are not getting it from her try to give them as much as possible!

Your sister sounds like she could have some serious mental health issues - have you spoken to her doctor? is she under any sort of care? She is lucky to have you as her sister to worry for her. Can you offer help in terms of healthy meals that you could freeze then all she has to do is ping it? Maybe take the DN for days out? Have him for sleep overs at the weekend? I know this sort of plays up to her frenetic lifestyle but at least it gives some stability to your DN. Im sorry but if htis were a memeber of my family i would be informing SS in order to get them some help.