This has been a long standing issue with my family. First they went on, and on at me about learning to drive (I hated it at 17 and only got the money to do it a year ago when I was 25, I passed last April).
Since then my parents (and to a degree the rest of the family) have gone on, and on, and on about us (my partner and I) not owning a car. Every single discussion has been turned round onto this. We were going to buy one last April after I passed, but DP got a new job in London, we moved to central London, and then DP lost his job which has obviously made finances difficult (though obviously if we ever mentioned this to my parents as a reason for not buying a car we were accused of decreasing his chances of not getting a job by not having a car).
It has come to a head as this Easter we will be going to my parent's for Easter, and they are refusing to confirm whether easter will be at their house or at some other relatives who are about 40 miles/45 min drive away from their house. We used to pay to be added onto the insurance of their second car on these occasions but they have just sold this and now have one car which has 5 seats when 6 in total would need to travel form their house to a relatives.
If we are to go to another relatives house we would need to hire a car, which is fine, but we would need to organise it now as it is the easter weekend and prices will go up very quickly.
I have explained this and my parents are making out that we are being very unreasonable for asking this, as the other relatives are very disorganised (this is a null point as my mother is a real matriarch who controls all these kind of things). She has suggested that she will just have to take the train and cycle the remaining 10 miles on easter Sunday morning if they decide to go to one of my relative's houses.
I think this is martyrish behaviour, and just a way of pointing out how awful us not owning a car is and how it inconvenices others.
I know that car ownership/driving causes some strong feelings, but AIBU?