was this racist?

[lovetomoan]

I was on the tube with my baby (pushchair). Woman got on and said fucking pushchairs looking at my pushchair (the pushchair was on the pushchair/wheelchair priority place next to the sign). I ignored her.

Then she proceeded to bang her shopping bags against the pushchair. I ignored it.
Then she asked me to move my pushchair and I said I couldn't, as there was not other space available, she could move further inside the carriage and my pushchair WAS on the pushchair priority place.

She pushed my baby's pushchair and I went mental. I shouted at her not to do that again and when she tried again, well, we both said f.. this and f that and as she was getting off she told me to go back where I came from. I said I will, when she goes back where she came from: her mother's ass.

This is not the first time someone tells me to go back where I came from (after all I have olive skin and most people think I am asian/spanish/italian/oriental, etc. I am actually mixed native south american and white) , but it was the first time (on the tube).

Just to be clear...it seems to me to be a bit of a no brainer that racism beats effing and blinding in terms of despicable twattishness any time.

Foul cow. What is it with trains and trams that bring out the underbelly?

And it's a bit difficult to mind your language in that sort of situation, last thing on your mind when some yob pushes your pushchair and verbally abuses you.

Hmm. Racist yes but as the exchange started fairly unpleasantly then really whatever happened I guess it was always going to end badly.

I read on mumsnet quite often that people will often "rather loudly" offer some missive to another person regarding some offence they are committing. The problem with this is that people do not like it and by and large, if they have anything about them, will stand up for themselves, from there it is a fairly small snowball until one side says something that is one ism or another.

Frankly I'd have just told her to fuck off. Bag knocking/pushchair moving would have been dealt with equally harshly. Sometimes you have to send a message.

Yeah it was racist, although the whole exchange sounded unpleasant. Great comeback though.

Jostling your baby around in his/her pushchair was not enough for that utter ooooooohhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Aaarrrrgggghhhh!

I am so sorry this happebed.

Ffs!!!

Seriously people are questioning the fact that you stood up for yourself! I can't possibly imagine the size of the can of whoop ass that I would open, if some woman started moving my pram and hitting it with her bags!

To all the 'won't somebody think of the children', don't worry, there were no children in the carriage at the time, only my baby and he was sleeping.
Funnily enough, I usually do not swear and was surprised at my own reaction must be because I gave birth 4months ago only

To all thinking 'it is crowded and people get upset at rush hour', well, it wasn't rush hour and there was plenty of space.

LayMizz I do think that woman was racist. Even if she was in a rush, there was no need to mention your skin colour. And I don't believe you would stand there quiet if someone was pushing your BABY on his pushchair, saying fucking pushchairs maybe you don't have children

HoHoHo LynetteYes, next time I will say: well, pay my taxi fare to South East London

And lastly, to all of you who are lucky to drive a car, good for you. You realise that is not an option for everyone who lives in London, I hope.

OP, I recommend you read a recent AIBU thread started by 'atthewelles' now in classics ;)

chocoluvva yes the 'atthewelles' thread is very funny. I only asked here because my dear FIL said it wasn't racist. I think he said that because what I experienced on the tube was nothing if you compared it with what he had to experience. And he is white.