Wedding day gift returned to me.

[Lynned]

Have just read the pandora charm thread. On my wedding day I gave my dm a pair of drop pearl earring ( very 80s I know) which matched the pair I wore on the day. I was very excited about them, but a few years ago she gave them back to me, as she doesn't wear earrings anymore. Aibu to feel hurt that she just didn't keep them for sentimental reasons?

People often return sentimental items when they get older, or start divvying up the important things they have acquired or inherited. It sort of stops things going to the wrong person in the event of death.

Sorry to be so morbid.

I agree with HollyBush, I think she has loved them and wants them to go to you and is ensuring they do not fall into someone else's hands if something happens to her suddenly.

My grandmother did similar for me except I got a whales tooth. So rather jealous of your ear-rings.

Agree with above posters - it could be that another member of the family has started to make noises about wills and who will be left particular items , or it could be that your mum has thought about making sure all her affairs are in order. She understands that these earrings hold precious memories for both of you, so by giving them to you she knows they are already safely with the person who will treasure them.

Do you have a DD that you could pass them on to at an appropriate time ?

My parents have started giving things away to various relatives while they are alive, to make sure that special things that are valued by individuals are going to the right home. Nothing incredibly expensive, just sentimental mostly.
They like the fun of watching the response as well.

These are good points. My step ml flounced off with dmls jewellery never to be seen again. My dd was supposed to get her engagement ring.

Maybe she knows how much you like them (do you still have the pair you wore? btw) and wants you to enjoy them? Its not like she gave them away to someone else - i woudlnt be upset, she IS keeping them, shes just giving them to you to take care of.

I think she is just making sure you get them. DH has a set of diamond jewellery in his family that is passed down from MIL to DIL and each generation is supposed to add something to it on the next ones wedding day. MIL is allergic to the earrings so she gave them to me when her MIL died. Your mum is probably doing something similar.

My mum gave me her charm bracelet (I'm on Pandora thread too ) because she wanted to make sure I got it and not my sisters. She'd seen me wearing mine, so thought I'd wear hers as well. I wore it to mum and dads anniversary party last week and she was really emotional .

Agree with other posts. My gran did this with us to make sure we had the things she wanted us to and so she could see us wear and enjoy them.

When I was a little girl, my Great Aunt who was growing older, gave me her sewing basket (much of it was antique) because she knew how much I loved and admired it and she could probably imagine many of her reltives not knowing this...or thinking it was of no importance.

Don't get offended. I bought my mum loads, and I mean loads of jewellery over the years, and so has db, and df. When I moved here to Oz she gave some of it back to me as
A) we moved and she wasn't sure she'd see us again.
B) she's had cancer several times.
C) she has so much jewellery, and doesn't really go anywhere nice to wear it.
D) some was antique stuff left to her, so wanted to pass it on.
It's understandable.